Cannot interact but I want to. Is it because of my ideas?

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So this person started talking with me a lot when I was new to college but it was really weird for me and too much at once so I got mad at him and made him not talk to me again, but now I want him to talk to me again but I can't actually go and say that. I wanted to say hi this morning but in my mind I was like 'cannot be done'.

I feel like I'm supposed to be an observer than an active participant socially. I feel like my task in life is to learn but not take part in socialising for its own sake. I've been told this idea I have is wrong but I can't see why it's wrong. I struggle to give it up. Can someone give me proof if it's not true? Have I been struggling to make friends and such for my whole life because of this idea? I've had something like that in my mind for as long as I can remember. I also had an idea that I must not grow up mentally because I'll forget important things and become bad since I was 4 till 12 when I got rid of it. And I was obsessed with time and trying to stop time lol.

How can we have ideas for so long since a child if they're not supposed to be followed?

Truth in this instance is what you choose to believe. If you want to learn about socializing but not do it that's a choice although I believe the point of learning something is so that you can use it and participate. If not I would question why you want to learn?

Ideas or delusions? I fully admit I've had outright delusions in my life that seemed all consuming at the time and inarguable something that appeared as an innate truth I followed as a result. But this is not why an idea should be followed it is whether or not it achieves our objective. Ideas, beliefs, disappear as soon as they no longer achieve the objective we choose. Your desire to interact for example.

There is no rational argument that it 'cannot be done' unless he has died or equivalent. The traditional response is to say hello and apologize for your earlier behavior this is to reset the situation and re-establish an environment he can approach you in without threat.

Huh?

You feel that its your job to observe and learn about socializing, but NOT to participate in socializing?

Then whats the point of observing and learning then?

(Unless you're planning to be a great novelist maybe).