Many people have problems with finances, so you're not alone there. I believe accountants can assist with managing this without any kind of persecution involved, or even financial counselling - I have some experience with them when I was being threatened over hospital bills. They were very helpful.
As to personal care, I have no significant self-care issues and ironically used to work for a community care agency which assisted others with aspects of personal care, ranging from the very intimate physical body care to merely social and community access. Your level of care is determined by your needs, so if you were to be assessed for visit by a community carer, this would be tailored to your ability level and the carers would assist you with the rest.
There are lots of these agencies, which you approached would likely be influenced by your preference and circumstances, and usually referred by your doctor. Just a suggestion.
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Alexithymia - 147 points.
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