Are you lonely?

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What are some of the things you have done in your life to alleviate loneliness?

Read books, watch TV, take walks, gorge myself with food, sleep. One other thing--but it's too "adult" to mention here.

As long as I can bounce from special interest to special interest I am fine. My problem is that after 55 years if banging my head against the walls, I'm just toasted and would rather go the path of least resistance for a while.

Personally find myself wanting to be left alone, rather than feeling lonely.

When I am left alone I can pursue my interests uninterrupted.

Although I can't say I find interacting with other people to be particularly easy, I must admit that I need to be around others for my life to seem more meaningful.

I am currently living at home with my family while learning how to drive and looking for a job. I spend a lot of that time at home alone while everyone else goes to work. There are a few things I have done to relieve my lonliness.

The first is, during the time everyone else is home, I spend as much time with them as I can handle, so that I can relieve the loneliness from my day and I am more happy to be alone when the time comes again.

The second thing I do is keep myself busy during the time that I am alone. It's harder to feel lonely when your mind is occupied. I spend time looking for jobs, doing artwork, reading and writing to keep my mind busy.

A third thing I do is look for sites and forums I am interested and looking for conversations on them which interest me. That's what I'm doing to escape my loneliness and boredom right now.

I also sometimes call people who I know that might be available to talk to during the day.

These techniques don't get rid of my loneliness altogether but it does reduce the feeling some for me.

try to better myself by seeing a doc, going to school, hopefully eventually get a job

I'm constantly lonely since I avoid people a lot and hardly talk. There isn't a lot that helps alleviate it for me personally except attempting to socialize so I don't feel totally inept that day. Problem is I don't feel motivated to approach people and talk.

I feel alone, but not lonely.

Sometimes I do but most of the time I don't really notice it. I'll end up concentrating on a special interest.

Do wish I wasn't single sometimes though. But I do tend to avoid people so I don't really help myself.

Ya know, it's interesting that 'single' thing.

Though married, I was single and celibate for two periods. And, each time it was really nice to not have to be concerned with someone else's needs.

But, I do like when the wife comes at home. I just go bonkers though if she is around me too much. All that chit chat. All the distractions. And, oh lordy, do I hate it when I am reading or watching something (or worse, trying to work) and there's talk. Commercials, you can talk. When I put the book down, you can talk. If I'm on the keyboard and programs are open, do not bother me at all. Or, if you need my attention, at least ask if I'm tied up....don't just start yammering at me. NT's do seem to need their attention from others.

But, y'know,
You take the good, you take the bad,
you take them both and there you have
my stupid life, my stupid life......

Basically, no panacea anywhere. I have known people who are actually the most lonely and are always surrounded by people.

PS...New Captcha sucks the big wienie. pick the pictures with airplanes....GIMME some good pictures to choose from!! !!

Sheeeshhhhh......

I know it has to be done.....too many times I come here at night and some idiot with "Love Miracles" or some other BS has spammed the hell outta the place, but damn.......

I've been lonely practically my entire life. I just find something to concentrate on. There's always a new obsession.

Eventually I'm going to learn how to have a social life and then I'll be fine. Working on getting a happy normalish life is going to be a major focus these next few months.

Going to get a job, finish my degree, and find others that I can relate to.

Generally, I have played games, read books and gone on my ipad in order to avoid loneliness. However, I am usually on my own a lot during break and lunch at school.

I don't mind being lonely, since I enjoy peace and quiet, but sometimes being lonely is really sad. I am going to start going to a youth centre soon, so I will be able to interact with others more

That is the secret, I think. I never found anyone unless I was not looking. And, it took me 30+ years, but I found someone that can mesh with me more successfully than I would have guessed. It ain't flowers and unicorns, but it is better than I could expect. And, with my experiences, that is saying a lot.

And, it just very well be an NT or not that you bond with.

But, I agree that putting your life into focus is the most important goal. If that is not met, and you meet the right person, then how can it be good if you're not really decided on certain things.