Is anyone else super sensitive?

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Not sure if this is an aspie trait but anytime anyone says anything to me that is mean I cry. As a matter of fact I cried at something someone said to me on this site. But it doesn't make much sense because I am blunt with other people and I don't really care if they cry. I am always told I'm "too sensitive" and when I hear that I bite/punch myself. Or are most aspies not sensitive?

Yes I am very sensitive and I cry easily. If a person says something mean it really hurts me and sometimes I have had full blown meltdowns over it. I am also really sensitive to edginess or hostility if a person is in a bad mood even if they don't say anything to me.

I do care though if I hurt someone or make them cry. I have said mean things to people too and it seems to me like most people don't even care because they don't get upset like I do. Either they just laugh over it and/or they fight back. I only say really mean things when I'm already feeling really hurt or vulnerable so if the other person retaliates it just heaps more misery on me. It's a lose/lose situation no matter what.

I can be extremely sensitive at times. It depends on my mood. I can cry very easily at times and have absolutely no control over it. I find it embarrassing.

i was the crybaby of my class

I'm sensitive, but I don't go the crying route - I get mad. I may cry later on when I'm by myself because I lost control over my emotions. I hate losing control.

I am very sensitive. Even the tiniest bit of criticism upsets me, and I have meltdowns over things that wouldn't bother most people.

I am, although nowadays I suppress my emotions when around most other people, and only let myself cry by myself. I think that sensitive people are usually kinder and stronger, because weak people numb themselves and stop feeling altogether. Unfortunately, we live in a society where being sensitive is seen as a character flaw, and that has to change.

I am a crying type. It's super embarrassing, but when things get to stressful, and I feel like a failure. I can't help it. I mean I'll try hard to fight the urge to cry, but I will eventually cry. Especially if I perceive someone yelling at me, or being mean or if I failed or upset them.

It's what gets me in trouble at work a grown man crying out of blue after a manager says something mean and you feel like you failed them, kind of looks weird.

I'm overly sensitive. A 65 year old man and I still cry. But I cry when I'm alone by myself (and alone by myself is most of the time). I won't do it in front of others, not even my therapist.

I've cried myself to sleep way too many nights.

Before I'd ever really heard of autism, I was convinced that the explanation for my abnormal traits and behaviours was that I was a "highly sensitive person" (a clinical term coined by Dr. Elaine Aron which impacts about 20% of a population, of many different species, not just humans.) I thought this because I fit so many of the traits listed for "diagnosis" in her book, "The Highly Sensitive Person" (it's not a diagnosable disability, more of a global personality difference). My traits include:

"I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment"
"Other people's moods affect me"
"I find myself needing to withdraw during busy days, into... a darkened room... where I can have some privacy and relief from stimulation"
"I am particularly sensitive to the effects of caffeine"
"I am easily overwhelmed by things like bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens close by"
"I have a rich, complex inner life"
"I am made uncomfortable by loud noises"
"I am deeply moved by the arts or music"
"I am conscientious"
"I startle easily"
"I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time"
"I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once"
"I try hard to avoid making mistakes or forgetting things"
"I make it a point to avoid violent movies and TV shows"
"I become unpleasantly aroused when a lot is going on around me"
"Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in me"
"Changes in my life shake me up"
"I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art"
"I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations"
"When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise"
"When I was a child, parents or teachers seemed to see me as sensitive or shy"

The problem with this checklist, as you can see (on which I said "false" to only two of twenty-three items) is that it essentially describes all the non-social difficulties faced by a person with autism, so it's easy for me to see why I thought I was an "HSP" before learning about autism. In fact, the only time I ever doubted this HSP self-diagnosis was when I considered the fact that HSPs are supposed to be highly attuned to others' emotions, and to feel things for and about people on a much deeper level, and I didn't. I meet all the criteria to be labelled highly sensitive, but I don't think I am, I think it's just my autism.