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09 Feb 2016, 6:41 pm

We can't be that weird if there's more than 1% of the whole population who has autism. That's millions. I've always thought of this analogy to describe whiat i understand about autism from having high funnctioning asperger's syndrome- "Imagine a greenhouse, there's a guy inside growing his flowers, he's a normie if you will. The aspie is opposite the road from him, they both see each other and acknowledge each under but both have very different persecpstives. Having a greater/life damaging autism disorder just means you are still opposite the greenhouse, he can still see you and vice versa its just even harder for him to see you as you are further down the road than the high functioning aspie".



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09 Feb 2016, 6:52 pm

It is really hard to buy clothes if you are shorter than 95% of the population for adult men--which is 5' 4"
You go a men's store and quite possibly they will have nothing for you.



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09 Feb 2016, 7:01 pm

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09 Feb 2016, 7:08 pm

I'm 5 foot 4.75, probably shorter than 90% of the male population, and I really don't have much trouble buying clothes for myself in "regular" mens stores. The only problem I encounter is the inseams of trousers/pants/slacks.

If only there were more pants with 28 inseams! There are many with 29--but I'm a 28!



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10 Feb 2016, 1:45 am

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It is really hard to buy clothes if you are shorter than 95% of the population for adult men--which is 5' 4"
You go a men's store and quite possibly they will have nothing for you.

Hah! That's the beauty of being genderqueer - buy clothes from both sections, all sections! Doesn't matter if it's men's, women's, boys, girls (though not so much there, as everything seems to be overwhelmingly pink and / or has a character from "Frozen" on it) whatever fits me I buy. Plus I routinely like clothing that doesn't fit, usually on the too big side. I'm likely to get weird looks in every section.


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10 Feb 2016, 3:17 am

At 4' 11 and 83 pounds, I fall in the bottom 3rd percentile for my age group as far as height and weight. I am literally in the 50th percentile for the stature of an 11-year-old girl. This makes it very difficult to not only buy clothes that fit -- (I live pretty much entirely in overalls because it's so freaking hard to find pants that fit in the leg and the waist at the same time, so holding up my pants with straps is just easier), -- but also to do things independently like grocery shopping, aspects of my job which require me to reach high places, things which require an average adult amount of weight to shift or make work, like changing a tire or bringing heavy packages into the house from the front stoop, etc.

The point of this analogy is to demonstrate that being different has its challenges, and it will always be a challenge for as long as it's considered a difference and not the mainstream. The world is not physically designed to be easily accessible to a child, in the same way that it's not physically, socially or emotionally designed to be easily accessible to an autistic and others with different neurological disabilities. If we lived on a planet in which we were the majority, our needs would be met as easily as the needs of NTs are met here on earth, just as, on a planet where 4'11 and 83 pounds was average height and weight for an adult, things would be low enough to reach, and light enough to manipulate.


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10 Feb 2016, 4:51 am

I feel like I am in the wrong life. I don't feel like I belong anywhere. I feel like I have less social skills than many people here, and I'm "mild".



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10 Feb 2016, 5:03 am

I'll get back to OP when I've traveled enough to form a cohesive answer. I do know I'm in good company however.


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10 Feb 2016, 6:13 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I'm 5 foot 4.75, probably shorter than 90% of the male population, and I really don't have much trouble buying clothes for myself in "regular" mens stores. The only problem I encounter is the inseams of trousers/pants/slacks.

If only there were more pants with 28 inseams! There are many with 29--but I'm a 28!


Its a cultural issue. I remember a Hilo Hatties on one of the outer Islands in Hawaii that did free alterations--you could buy a loud Hawaiian shirt and get it altered for your size! And they did it then and there--no hassle with coming back in two weeks and such. If it can be done way, way, way out in the boonies, why can't it be done in New York City?

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/series/sr_11/sr11_252.pdf
In case you want to see the statistics for the USA.



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10 Feb 2016, 7:18 am

Were you in wrong setting that you never keep up with, born in a wrong culture you can never fit in with, in a wrong country you never felt belonging in with, within a wrong era that you will never understand, in a wrong planet?

So which is it? XD


Sounds like I'm playing with words, but I'm serious.


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10 Feb 2016, 5:42 pm

Why is everyone talking about height? whats that gotta do with autism?



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10 Feb 2016, 5:49 pm

Just because 1% of the population has autism doesn't mean they're anything like me. It seems I'm on just as wrong a planet on this forum as in real life.



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10 Feb 2016, 6:13 pm

immsie wrote:
Why is everyone talking about height? whats that gotta do with autism?


Haha I'm a bit lost by that too?

One of my special interests is prehistoric anthropology, and studying Stone Age culture has really helped me to understand and appreciate what it means to be human, and to belong on this planet. Modern society completely baffles me, but when I get back to basics, of what life was like before things got so complicated, it makes a lot more sense to me.



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10 Feb 2016, 6:26 pm

I picked height because it is easy to conceptualize over a number of different thinking styles.

More importantly, there is hard data readily available.



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10 Feb 2016, 6:51 pm

For comparison, 1% of people have schizophrenia, and 2.5% have cognitive disabilities.



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10 Feb 2016, 7:05 pm

I'm on the right planet.
I've never understood the whole wrong planet thing.
The planet is the Earth.
We were meant to live with and respect nature.

But some 'people' have the mindset that the planet needs to be conquered.
They think themselves above nature, so they divide themselves off from it.
They exploit and kill everything in it to gain wealth and prestige.
They don't care about anyone or anything but themselves.

Those are the kind of people who don't belong here.
They need to get off my planet.


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