Do you ever get tired after social situations?

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I get seriously tired after social gatherings, or being in a crowd of people I don't know. Its like all the energy has been sapped out of me, to the point where I feel more or less dead... Its a horrible feeling and the only way to shift it is to sleep or lie down for about an hour. Does anybody get this, or is there something seriously wrong with me?

No, you are not by yourself on that! I feel the same way.

Yup, I feel the exact same way. I've come to dread social gatherings and parties. I've learned not to feel bad about it, it's just who I am, I almost always decline party and social event invitations.

Yeah, I feel the same. It can vary, too, depending on other factors, but in general, no matter how much I like a social occasion, I will be drained afterward.

Yup. Every time. There's a reason why I usually spend at least 6 hours a day in my mancave alone.

I get emotionally drained just being in the physical presence of other people. I don't even have to be trying to socialize. Parties are really awkward for me, & I'd much rather not go.

I've heard an analogy that extroverts charge their batteries socially, drain them alone...introverts drain them socially and charge them alone. Sure seems true enough for me (I class my aspergers as kindof super-charged introversion), it seems for every minute of social time I need maybe 4 mins of alone time, just to rejuvenate.

It's like I have my 'A game' and then I slump. Then just need to be completely alone, completely doing my own thing.

Then I have a C game where I'm with people but not really paying attention. I guess I would like a B game where I'm partially paying attention, skimming.

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And I like the description of an introvert draining his or her batteries in social interaction, and then recharging them alone.

I really like the battery analogy. I need to be alone most of the time to charge the batteries just to be able to drain them around people occasionally.

Sometimes, it gets to the point that I feel physically ill in the presence of just one other person.

The last time I was at a party I felt like I was bombarded by the noise, by the conversation, by the people and their emotions, like everything was battering me until I shut down. What helped me focus and shut it all out was being introduced to someone who was a fan of some of my writing from years ago, and we talked for a few hours about our shared interest. I still ended up having to sleep for most of the next day and a half, and still took a few more days to fully recover.

I am not sure if a battery analogy fits there. Unless the batteries are powering very flimsy shields.

Yes, every day after school i feel terrible.At the beggining of school im pumped up and perfectly capable of being social...then I kind of die down to the point where I can barely think strait.

Actually, I don't get this. I get bored, but never physically tired. Once I went out for a meal in an Indian restaurant with my family, and it was a very social situation, but when we got home (at about 11 o'clock at night because we were sitting chatting for ages) I got into bed and felt really wide awake, and could have sat there with lots of people for ages, even if I don't say anything.

It's kinda like this.

Being in public is kinda like leaving a laptop on idle without being plugged in. I can go for a long while, but eventually I can run out of juice after several hours.

Actually having a conversation is like running a virus scan, surfing the web, and playing back music, all while running Crysis on max settings at the same time. I struggle to maintain an adequate level of performance (how many laptops are actually capable of doing that?) and after an hour my battery is just about gone.

I think social situations are always exhausting for me. If I have to be around other people for any length of time, I need lots of time to prepare for that kind of interaction and I need to be alone immediately afterward to reset. This even applies to my husband or a day full of my own children. By the end of it I need a quiet room with a closed door.