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My mom says I slip on and off the criteria. When I have bad days like when I get overwhelmed or stressed out, I meet the criteria because I am less flexible and I don't like being disturbed and my routines are restricted and I do stim. But wouldn't anyone meet the criteria then? You know how everyone gets when they are irritable and when you interrupt them, they get real annoyed because they have to stop what they’re doing. I get like that when I keep getting bothered and I can’t do my things. I can be watching TV and I hate getting interrupted to do something because I don’t want to miss my show and I even get annoyed online when I am trying to do something and my online buddies expect me to answer their questions that make stop and think of an answer and I don’t like doing that when I’m busy with other things on the internet and online.
When I lived with my boyfriend for a while, I was a lot less flexible and I couldn’t stand to miss my shows and I couldn’t even last at his grandparents house more than ten minutes because I’d break into having a meltdown and he said that isn’t AS and I have something else. I even stimmed all the time too and I did it very little when I lived by myself. I was under a lot of stress then so it made me be that way. I wanted everything my way or I’d have anxiety inside of me and I was always anxious to do something and I always had anxiety about when we were going to do something he was going to do because there was no time frame and I didn’t know when to expect it. Now that I’m living with my aunt and uncle I feel normal again and I haven’t been watching my shows much because I like being out and I don’t have to head home on my days off just to catch my evening shows and I have been missing my shows anyway because of work and I take my showers late too before I head home. I don’t even have restricted routines. I forget how restricted mine are till I’m in a relationship or with someone all the time.
Few days ago I only got frustrated at work (made that post too about it) when I kept getting interrupted what I was doing to do something else was when I was having a bad day at the time so it made me less flexible in my routines. Doesn’t anyone think even NTs would act like this from what I just said all of the above. I realized couple days ago what my mother says is BS because I think even NTs get this way too when stressed out and having bad days.

AS is a neurobiological condition. Either your brain functions as an aspie or it doesn't. I am stunned by the illogic of slipping on and off the chart like you are a sum of your behavior.

That's what borderline AS is. It means you don't always have it. I used to think it meant you are diagnosed with it but you don't meet the criteria.

I think it's right that your brain either functions as an aspie or it doesn't But stress/anxiety etc can cause your AS to seem more extreme. My psychologist told me it gets worse at times in your life when you are under stress or something.

The behavior doesn't define Aspergers or autism, it marks it. I have never heard of Borderline AS/Autism to mean that you "have it sometimes and don't have it sometimes". It means you are less affected.
Stress, anxiety, allergies, sensory issues, misreading body language are all things that NTs experience but not on a pervasive level. That is, those things don't interfere with NT's lives. For instance, when I worked in a nursing home, sometimes we'd get sent to other floors to work. Everyone complained about it and sometimes tried to argue our way back to our "home" floor (our normal workplace). But I actually cried over it and another woman I knew, who was bipolar also had fits about it too. Not just the complaining but an hour of adjustment time, just getting used to the idea. Routine is like a security blanket for us. When left on my home floor, I got along with my coworkers (after a year of getting to know them) and had a schedule.

My son passes for normal when he is either so entrenched in a routine that doesn't have to change or when he is too scared to act out and he puts on this "perfect kid" routine. We were nervous that he'd miss the autism diagnosis because he "behaved" perfectly, but the testing/examination was geared for marking his speech, cognitive skills and social awareness.

I would think the same for an Aspie who is "borderline", there is still a difference in how you think that then affects how you feel and behave at any given time.