I just posted something and discovered that the question was explored in another thread, so I kind of got my answer. This is a bit more complicated. My previous therapist said that I had to learn to "manage expectations." In other words, I expect more from people than they can give. I will provide two examples:
1. When I got the diagnosis, I expected the doctor to know about support groups or what to do with my life (OK, what skills I had and what kind of jobs would best fit those skills). She couldn't answer any of these questions. I was upset over that, but the leader of a women Aspergers group told me that I shouldn't have expected anything from her. I don't understand why.
2. There is a person who is in charge of finding jobs for people with Aspergers. There was a group of us who got a temp job through him. He was lining up other jobs for people and told me personally when he was lining up for me. He told us to just sit tight, after the temp job ended, and wait until he finalizes the job for us. Three months later, he had a position for some people. When I asked him about myself, he said that he had nothing and I shouldn't wait for him because I will be waiting for months. I was really upset.
Has anyone had similar reactions to things happening to them? How do you know when to expect something or not to expect something? I certainly don't.
28 Feb 2016, 3:59 pm
