'Pretty normal'

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Has anyone ever said that you're 'pretty normal' to them, or 'why bother' with a diagnosis? I'm prety good at disguising my AS traits when I'm around people. The people that I have told (who need to know about my AS), their first reaction was that to them I'm 'pretty normal' and 'why bother' with a dx at my age anyway. I get quite fustrated by this. As if the world isn't hard enough to decode. Has it happened to anyone else?

No.

I kind of get the opposite. People are always telling me to come out of my shell and be more social. People ask me whether I'm depressed or not and need to talk to someone.

Nobody's ever said anything like that to me, but I know that I can disguise my AS quite well, so a lot of people would probably think that if I told them. Then again, it might be more obvious than I think.
It's taken several years for me to manage some kinds of conversations properly and work out what I not supposed to do in certain situations etc though so it would annoy me if people were thinking like that.

I know the feeling, but only kind of - i was trying to explain to a friend how our walking club trips exhaust me as I have to be sociable, lead walks, make sure everyone is safe and almost be incharge, he then came out with "Your imagining it - your great with people"
The problem is, people cannot see the turmoil within you - and although you may appear normal, it takes a strain on your spirit.

Having said that, I wouldn't actively persue a dx, since when I did the tests, and read criteria etc, I knew it was me, I have known me for 20 years, and have known I am somewhat different to those around me, I've always found attenuating circumstances which I used to explain things before (such as being on the Foundation year at uni, whereas all of my peers were on full degrees)
I doubt that these had much credance now though.

Out of interest why do you want a Dx? Does it actually answer anything new, or just put your mind to rest?

No. I don't even have Aspie traits to hide from people, so I never get called 'normal'.

I constantly get the "but you seem normal to me," from people who know nothing of AS. People that do know about AS are able to recognize it only after I tell them.

I don't tell people I have it because 1) I don't think I do and 2) I act pretty normal. I am getting better and my PDD has gotten less and I have learned to cope with changes and learned to be more flexible. I bet people wouldn't believe me anyway if I told them but they might after a while and it explain to them why I act different at times.

I don't even know how to hide my autistic traits.

Er, I have no Aspie traits...

How come you have no Aspie traits if you have AS?