People who are obsessed with your autistic traits

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I sometimes like to visit my former special ed teacher. He's pretty amusing, but he has this annoying habit of obsessing over people's autistic traits. I think he unconsciously or conciously acts in a way that makes people act more autistic.

An example is using extremely odd idioms and asking me if I know what they mean. He basically wanted me to ask him what it means to prove to him I take everything literally. He also obsesses about his students' special interests and teases them about them.

He also tries to embarrass students who are stimming by imitating them. Most of those students clearly knew stimming was socially unacceptable, they don't need to be embarrassed more.

Do you know anyone like this?

My school counselor seemed to like pathologizing my behavior. Everything I seemed to do was all AS. I was introduced to parody music when I was 16 by my brothers and I found the songs funny so I started to look for more on Kazaa. But because we only had dial up still back then, it would take weeks for a song to download so I was downloading parody Christmas music and I would make a list of them in my journal so I would know the names of the songs I wanted. I once showed it to my therapist and he said "You're still stuck on Christmas music" and I knew what he was implying so I told him it takes a long time to download a song and he said most people would have moved on and I said again it takes weeks to get a song downloaded and he said people would have just given up and move on and not still be doing it. I guess he was saying that NTs wouldn't want to wait on parody Christmas songs to download so they would give up. He would also seemed to expect me to act a certain way because of AS like the time I was selling my Game Boy color and he asked me about it because he saw my ad on my locker about it. He asked me what if a middle school boy wanted to buy it from me but he didn't have money and said he would bring it tomorrow. I told him I would just hold onto the Game Boy until the next day when he has the money and he kept on asking me it over and over as if he wanted me to say "I will just give it to him and then wait for him the next day." Then my school counselor said anyway that if I gave it to him, I might never see that kid again and my Game Boy. And one time in a video store when I was 18, I was looking at the movies and I see a movie case and I thought a man on it was Adam Sandlar so I pick it up to see what the movie was about but only to realize it wasn't him so I put it back on the shelf. The school counselor was there also looking at movies and he said to me "That was quick" and I said "I thought it was Adam Sandlar." It may seem like an innocent comment with no agenda behind it but knowing him, I knew what he was thinking and getting at. if someone else had made that comment, I wouldn't have thought anything and just think it was just them commenting on how fast I looked at the movie case and I probably would have told them the same thing to explain why it was quick.

And he used to tell me things like how my brothers have traits but they don't have enough for the label because I told him they do the same things I am doing, being on the computer all the time and watching TV and they also are downloading music all the time so they must be stuck on it too. He also claimed how my parents had traits and would say things like I pace because my dad does so I get it from him or I do this because my mom does so I inherited that from her.

And when I told my mom these stories she said "I am so glad I got rid of him" meaning she had stopped using him and told my school we are no longer using him to have him see me.

Not quite the same what yours did but mine seemed to also be obsessed with aspie traits.

This is really horrible--people working in a professional capacity should not be trying to make those they
work with into NTs and should never ever mock and tease.
To me this sounds like a kind of picking on difference that sounds like bullying.

Someone just gave me a great article on apergers and academia that said: in a way, education is trying to make NTs more aspergian (get them to focus narrowly and master detail) and aspies more NT (make them study tons of stuff).

As bad as it was growing up undiagnosed not having people expect certain behavoirs of me because of a label or more accuratly stereotypes about a label was and remains a good thing. Outside of family I have never had a casual conversation about autism. The topic has never come up.