Crying and autism

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Hi:
I was wondering how common it is for people with Asperger's and mild autism to cry in the most awkward situations?

I cried in the middle of a wedding party and had to go home... that was awkward.

Honestly, though, I've known other people who cry as much/more than me. I think it's hard to pin down any correlation between autism and crying. However, when it comes down to the cause of the crying, you might find some data there. There are a lot of things that might make an autistic cry that a neurotypical person might find baffling, and vice versa.

I cry a lot when I have meltdowns or am just remembering something bad that happened.

I never let other people see me cry.
The only times I can't help crying, is when I watch movies alone.
The only time my wife has seen a tear in my eye, in ten years, was when we were watching Twins,
a comedy with Schwarzenegger and Danny DeVito.

I cry a lot. Here are things that often make me cry:

-listening to songs that bring back memories
-old people
-people or animals dying
-deep thinking (anxiety/depression-related thoughts)
-thinking how much I love my mum and other close relatives
-stress and panic attacks
-sad movies, or movies with endings that are too happy
-missing my boyfriend
-feeling sorry for self or others
-seeing someone else cry/feeling someone else's emotional pain
-being confronted and yelled at
-almost everything when due for menstruation.

The things listed above usually depend on what mood I'm in. I don't cry every time they occur, but they are the things that can make me cry, or at least feel sad. And there's probably more I haven't listed.

As a kid I used to cry whenever I hurt myself. I grew out of that when I was about 10.

I seem to have a habit of crying at work which began during my first job and it's usually when I get stuck doing a simple task like cleaning the dining room or even organizing a closer.

I don't let other people see me crying. The reason why I cry are different. Sometimes I cry because I feel bad for an animal/ a person, sometimes because of movies/series/books/games/songs. Most of the time I cry I cry because of personal reasons. I always cry at night when I'm alone because I feel lonely/I'm emotionally hurt.
Sometimes I suddenly feel so weak and hurt that it happens without me being able to do anything against it.

There was one time about a month ago where I was late to a class taught by a teacher with a quite strict attendence policy. He had me outside the room asking why I was late, and I started to tear up. I don't know why, and I tried to stop it but alas I couldn't. That was quite embarasing, and things like that happen every once in a while. I also cry a lot when I have a meltdown, which used to happen in school sometimes and I was bullied over it.

I seem to be afflicted with a curiosity known as "Stendahl's Syndrome" which manifests when I am exposed to something of great beauty, I get a quasi-"fight or flight" response and flush, hyperventilate, my heart pounds, I get hot under the collar, weepy, almost like all emotions at once.

I cried alot as a kid & when I was suffering from a sever depression. Lots of things reminded me of what I was depressed about. I managed to hold it in when I was around others thou.

Exhibiting emotion has always been difficult for me, but I do recall breaking down into tears in front of two male therapists about two and a half years ago. They kept asking me questions about my life and how I related to others and I just couldn't think of anything meaningful to say. I believe I eventually began to cry because I felt incredibly stupid for being almost brain-dead.

The lack of thoughts that permeate through my head is still a concern now. Even though that may sound like somewhat of a contradiction, there seem to be extended periods throughout an average day of mine where there's nothing on my mind at all. No imagery. No voices. No memories. Nothing at all. I remain adamant that there's something severely wrong with my brain - aside from ASD.

I do that too. I think it's partly related to my ADD, Sluggish Cognitive Tempo & my lack of imagination.

Yes, I can certainly identify with having a poor imagination (would that be considered an intellectual disability?), and I am on the waiting list for an ADD/ADHD assessment, too.

Although there's no magic pill, I really want my GP to prescribe me medication for concentration enhancement and anxiety alleviation. But he'll probably deduce that I am a depressed autistic degenerate and put me back on an SSRI like Citalopram or Mirtazapine.

I don't think it's an intellectual disability but I'm not sure.

Have you tried Wellbutrin/Bupropion? It's an antidepressant that's sometimes used for ADHD. Stimulant medications sometimes increases anxiety for people who are anxious thou. If that doesn't work & your doc is willing to listen, you could ask about Buspar for your anxiety; it's the only med specially for anxiety & not a benzo so it doesn't have negative cognitive effects; it helps my anxiety alot. & Strattera/Atomoxetine for your ADHD; it's a nonstimulant med but it made it harder for me to focus. Psych meds are & hit & miss thou.

I have only ever been prescribed Citalopram, Sertraline and Mirtazapine, all of which are SSRIs, I believe.

My doctor said that Mirtazapine is presently the most commonly administered anti-depressant for those who struggle with anxiety as well as depression. But I found it just made me hungry all the time and consequently rather damaging to my self-image - which was already rather poor.

I'll mention Wellbutrin and Buspar (I suspect I'd need an official ADHD diagnosis for the Buspar, though) the next time I have an appointment. Thanks.

Sorry for not staying on-topic, OP.