why do people keep asking me if im ok?

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im usually ok but whats makes them ask?

Are you okay? LOL

Seriously. I wonder if you have a sad expression, and seem preoccupied.

This seems to happen to many autistic people.

When NTs are upset, they tend to avoid eye contact, their speech is halted or absent, and they focus on topics that are seemingly meaningless.

So, when autistics do these things as part of our normality, clueless NTs might see an upset individual.

But, I am guessing.

I get this. Half of the time though, I'm not ok and need help that I'm too shy to ask for.

There is this thing called dysthymia where you are kinda depressed but not really but the key to it, is it gives the appearance of depression. Might have it, they said I wasn't depressed but was dealing with PTSD symptoms but labeled me as having dysthymia when I was 16. Along with the than Aspergers and the now Autism Spectrum Disorder. The way the doctor explained dysthymia to me is you just give off low energy so maybe you appear depressed without suffering from the depression part.

Worth asking someone about,

It could be that you have a flat affect, which makes people think something is wrong. This happens to me.

I am often asked that very same question. I surmise that it's because I tend to disengage in social situations and my facial expression is usually unemotional. From an outsider's perspective, I imagine that I appear rather intense and angry.

This is purely a supposition but perhaps your mannerisms are similar?

I remember one time where my mom asked me if I was OK because I regularly pace back and forth talking to myself which is aperently a sign of distress in NTs. I just do it because I enjoy putting myself on autopilot and immersing myself into my mind, like many aspies. From my experience many common aspergers traits can apear quite simelar to signs of depression and stress, hense the confusion.

I agree that our unusual mannerisms can make people think we're not OK when we are. I have a friend (who is on the spectrum) who sometimes asks if I'm OK when I'm just lost in thought.

My NT wife used to ask that a lot. Our counselor suggested to her to switch to "what's up?"

If someone asks you if you're ok, you could certainly say "I'm fine, why do you ask?" an alternative reply could be "I'm fine, thanks for asking. And you?"

The above are examples of a very useful conversational dodge - just change the subject from yourself to the other person. Most people like having an interest shown in them and may even start talking about themselves, which you can listen to half-heartedly and then go on about your business.

People have asked me this frequently, ever since I can remember. I think it's because I don't show much expression on my face.

I've asked the same question many times though, "Why do people keep asking me that?" And no one gives a real answer.

I get this so much! To be fair I think it can be difficult to tell when I'm okay and when I'm not but whichever is the case, I usually just want to be left alone but people don't seem to understand that!

On the writing table of my mind,
The 449th draft of
I'm not OK
You're not OK
And Thst's OK!

Signature of the moment
"Still too old to know it all"

'Are you Ok?'

'Smile'

'It might never happen'

I want to strangle them all, I resist and just give them my best smile, which causes some to run in fear.

If anyone tries using the title of my book OOMY (out of my mind)
I'm Not OK
You're Not OK...
Please let me know the reactions.