Acting outside your age

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My husband and I are often thought older than our age because of our behavior and the way we talk. I've come across several individuals who found it hard to believe that I am only 21. They assumed I was a bit older even though I look my age. Any other Aspies experience this where people think you're older than you really are?

I was never accused of being older than I was because I've always looked much younger than my actual age, but because of my vocabulary a lot of people assume I'm smarter than I actually believe myself to be.

Mentally and psychologically I don't think I've aged much since somewhere in between 17 and 26. I have never felt like a legitimate grownup.

Yes. People think I am much older than I am.

Only when I was younger. When I was thirteen, I'd get mistaken for someone a decade older.

Physically, people mistake me for much older than I am. Behaviour-wise, some say I act much younger (and this is true for some aspects). I suppose somewhere between those two perceptions of me lie my actual age

When I was growing up I always acted and spoke in a way beyond my years. I always got on really well with older people, as I felt more on a level with them. With my mature vocabulary I was able to hold down conversations about real topics. I was able to relate more with my teachers at school than my peers.

I've done a bit of a crossfade since the time I reached adolescence, aging in reverse like Mork from Ork

In my elementary school years, I used vocabulary that was not used by any of my peers. Many didn't even know what I was saying. As I got into my teen years, I became very jaded and was told that I'm too young to be this cynical.

I have the (dis)advantage of looking older. A bit because I seem calm as a first impression and a bit grey hairs (I hope they make me look distinguished )

But sometimes when I put ideas on the table people accuse me of youthful ideas, having the mind of a 10 year old boy (or an evil genius).

My mental age is years behind my physical age. I still get the urge to throw tantrums(I don't, but I still get really angry), and I like a lot of things that are considered childish. I HATE responsibility.

Well, I have been angsty about acting younger than my age for a long time. Even though I'm young, I feel like a Christmas cake as a result.

People always thought I was older but I didn't act my age. I was always younger on the inside and when I was in my teens I acted maturely when it came to responsibility but my social skills were below the age level. I felt ahead of everyone as a young adult because I was living on my own and working and taking life seriously while other twenty year olds were going to school and trying to figure out their lives and not knowing what needs and wants are. Now that I am an adult, people tend to think I am younger now. But my husband will say I have a childlike attitude and I the way I still get happy and excited and upset. But he thinks it's all cute.

I have been considered mature for my age my entire life. As a guy it makes dating kind of hard... Since guys typically date younger, and I'm significantly more mature than my actual age, I tend to find girls younger than me quite annoying and childish, even though they're really just acting their age. I've gotten along well with women 5-15 years older than me, but it doesn't really make sense as a 27yo guy to get serious with a 40yo single-mother of two.

I look very young, so most people assume I'm about 14. I act even younger; I have no interest in becoming a "real" grownup at all, it sounds very boring.

TBH, I am quite envious of people who are at peace with acting younger.