Have you ever escaped your family?

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Growing up i wasnt lucky enough to have all the love and support from my family that i should have, and it seems like no matter what i try they never wanna change anything about that. So im moving away at the end of the month, im going to a town about 150km away to try and get a job, im doing it there for a week and if i dont get something good, im moving 3000km to a town that i know for sure i can make some good money and finally live a life that i was never able to.

Has anybody else with aspergers ever been in this situation, have you ever escaped your family?

I want to escape my family. Never have though, except for the time I ran away.

whn i was 19, i was working in my town hall (accountancy). and i was reading the newspaper (of course in a office!). My mum was on holiday.
I saw an ad, to be an au pair in the uk. (i am from france).
I applied, and they accepted me.
When my mum came back i told her "i am going to the uk in 4 days for a year"

I never came back (well i did for holidays..).

We are not very good at communication at home, so the only thing for me to do was leaving without having to explain that i want to be on my own...

I grew up in a dysfunctional, abusive family. When I was 18, my mother kicked me out of the house. Over the years, I have severed ties with my immediate family. The rest of my family only communicated with my mother. The best thing I ever did was to get away from these people.

My relatives live about 3000 miles away.

I have escaped the ones I needed to. The others I hold quite dear.

I didn't and landed inside of a psychiatric clinic, after that (and an arranged talk with my parents there) I managed to gain enough distance no longer to go crazy. It is not an escape since I live in walking distance to Ma's work place, but it's my own room and my own rules!

I cut contact with them about 6 years ago. I'm very happy I did.

There's a cliche that 'you marry to escape your parents'.

Or work or financial independence can do that too.

I moved states to get away from them, I don't think I really left them behind until I was about 40 though. I kept thinking they must feel something for me, we're family. They don't. I should have stopped fooling myself a lot earlier.

In a way my situation was similar and I did pack my bags and move even though my father kept telling me I couldn't.... funny though, I was 18 years old so obviously he couldn't legally stop me and he didn't. I don't want to say my parents were horrible, but I came from a very unloving dysfunctional family for the most part. I had to get away to keep any of my sanity. I did and I'm glad for it because I know it helped me tremendously.

I wish the best for you. I guess if I was to be so bold as to give advice....move out and just focus on your new job for right now. Maybe you can get a little nest egg in the bank to feel more secure being on your own. Then after that you can start to focus on other things and perhaps your family will start to come around if they see how well you're doing for yourself. And if they don't it's THEIR loss! Don't let them win, don't let them drag you down. Show them what you're made of

I've made the big escape, in the November of 2006.

I wanted to move out when I was 16 because I hated the messes my family made and my brothers having parties and too many friends over. I moved out at 19 and then moved over 500 miles away from them a year and a half ago.


No I never not saw them again. I still visit them and now they come out and see me. I let my brother and his friend stay here when they came out here. I would never want to shut my whole family out of my life.

I promised my folks I would move out as soon as I was 18, and since I graduated school 6 months before my 18th birthday, my folk helped me pick out a room with a nice older couple whose last young woman roommate got in the 'family way,' near the college and before the first week was over the old man down stairs let him self into my apartment when I was in the shower. I kicked him so hard and scratched his face he let me go. I didn't want to go back there so I stayed with a guy I had met. My folks couldn't believe the old man "would do that" and they put me in the State Hospital, for being 'wayward' and 'incorrigible.' 9 months later in 1969 I escaped on a day pass and this time I hitchhiked my way to the Woodstock Festival in New York State and beyond.

I went back once when I was 21, and realized it was a mistake. I went back twenty year later to do my 9th step, and after that, two days before my mother died and then to help my brother clean out their place after my dad shot himself. I haven't seen or talked to my brother since, nor do I expect to.

Family is not for everyone, I guess.

Merle

with my family it never worked, I was always the oddball and always told I was one. The only person I can deal with now is my aging mum, and I bet I got the aspieness from her and my dad. The combination did it. I try to get us together as a family but it won't work and when I say now I am an aspie they just see it as another excuse for doing and being what I am. No understanding whatsoever, hopeless!! !

It took me many years to find a way to escape my family, and I have almost. They want to have a reunion now and are trying to guilt me into going, but I don't want to go. They don't like taking no for an answer from me. They leave me alone for the most part, but have started bothering me again.

I live in a city where none of them live, which helps alot. I don't want to spend time with them because I've had way too much of their treating me a like a lower class citizen who doesn't have the same rights and freedoms of the general population.

Those days are over, I'm free.