how to find a topic I saw once?

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Maybe someone could help me?

It was something about the fact that people that are more autistic have better coping skills that those that are less autistic.

I ignored it at the time, but was told during my assessment that I scored quite high and I in fact have good coping skills, that are really helpful at work, but don't seem to help in my private life.

Don't remember if the topic had a link to any research but I'd still like to read it.

It was posted probably in February, maybe just a few first days of March, but I don't remember which forum. Just went through General Autism Discussion but didn't find it.

At the top of the page of each forum there is a page number. You can just search back page by page, and scan the the titles of the threads.

Each page on the General Autism forum represents about a week. So if you have some idea how long ago the topic was discussed you could skip several pages ( like if you think it was a year ago you could start searching at page fifty, or fifty two).

Its laborious but its the only technique I have ever found that works to do "archeaology" on old topics on WP.

There is that white space on the top left of the page with that letter "Q". You try typing in a key word to search. But thats usually pretty worthless in my experience.

Go to the thread I just started entitled "autistics and coping skills".

And then go to the bottom of the page to see the list of "related topics".

Four threads are listed.

All four are REALLY old (3 from '05, and one from '11). So I suspect that they may not be the one you're looking for. But check them out to make sure.

I use an Internet search engine using terms like "site:wrongplanet.net" "autism" "diagnosis" (or more specific terms). It almost always works by showing results which are similar to the terms.

I went though the topic list of the main forum twice, till the beginning of Feb, and I found this one that was about negative corelation between intelligence and adaptive strategies. Could be that I had some memory distortion?

What I meant however was: I sometimes rad about people here who have some bad meltdowns, panic attacks, social anxiety that stops them from working and still those people are quite happily married, have some friends.

While I have the ability to appear normal, don't usually have problems at work, as long as I don't work with melitious people, every guy who I wanted to go on a date with wanted to meet me again at least once, don't have panic attacks, don't have social anxiety and somehow my private life is non existant.

In a big part I am ok with being on my own most of the time (and maybe that's the problem?) but would like to have some people to do stuff with from time to time and that doesn't seem to be working.

You may be maxed out on coping, doing all the things you're doing and coping OK. Whereas a "lower functioning" autistic might not be able to "pass" in a work setting, or even manage their money and activities of daily living such as shopping for food and cooking, but within the sheltered environment, they may have happy relationships with family and a small circle of friends.

If you feel the relationships area of your life is lacking, promote "social connectedness" to a slightly higher priority level and begin working on that. I bet you can do it. You do need to think of it as work, at least initially. You can try online dating (seems like you have already done some dating), you could also look for a spiritual community that would welcome you, or you can develop a special interest that is at least partially social, such as prairie restoration, in-person role playing games, or a community choir.

You really don't want to trade the functioning level you have now, for meltdowns, panic attacks, and nervous breakdowns, so go slow. You may also need to give some attention to work-life balance. A therapist or life coach can help with this. Good luck!