Are you too trusting?

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My dad was expecting a carpet delivery (HUGE HEAVY ROLL!) and the guy came a few minutes ago. He asked if I wanted him to bring it in I said yes and he pushed it through the door and then left. I called dad and told him his carpet came and he reprimanded me on letting the man come in the house. (He was just pushing the HUGE HEAVY roll into the house nothing more.) I even had to push it farther in myself (after the man left) so I could put the rugs back down since I had just mopped. This lead me to question perhaps I'm too trusting. I understand with the spectrum we don't see cues so might be too trusting and get hurt by someone. I remember in 3rd grade someone said say to the teacher 3 times fast Bench Bench Bench (She grabbed me by the wrist and took me to the principals office I didn't know what I did wrong.) So I was wondering do any of you have "trust" stories and have you learned NOT to trust people or do you not trust at all?

I used to get set up by classmates too, they used to tell me to do things which got me in trouble. One day a girl who bullied me invited me to her house and I was pleased and thought "oh good an end to the hitting and spitting on me, we can be freinds now" but it was all a ruse and she gave me a funny hair cut and mocked me.

Im still too trusting, nevermind.

Your dad should have anticipated that situation and left specific instruction either with the delivery people or with you. You did nothing wrong there unless you had been previously told to never open the door if/when your father was not home.

I think her dad must be a bit over protective, I dont know anyone who doesnt get the delivery men to take the item into the destined room I dont think a delivery man would do anything as he would get into trouble at his work.

Yeah, this isn't really a good example of AS coming into play. If I was a delivery person I would find it very odd if they wanted me to leave some big heavy carpet on the porch or something.

Over-protective or not, her father is ultimately responsible for the security of his own house (family) within their own home.


That is a logical assumption, yet thieves/robbers do sometimes use "deliveries" to gain access.

Overall, I am saying/agreeing Zeldapsychology was not being unreasonably "trusting", but that her father should have nevertheless made sure she had not even been placed in that position. Rather than having provided clear direction, he later scolded her for making a logical judgment call in his absence.

Last edited by leejosepho on 10 Mar 2011, 12:25 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Thanks guys. Ya leaving a HUGE roll of carpet in the door way vs. him moving it inside I see no problem with it. Another trust story is back in College a student said "Hey come to my truck I have a gift for the teacher." I said ok then my family reprimanded me on that. OMG he could have tossed you into his truck etc.

Hi Zelda! I don't think it was unreasonable of you to let the carpet guy in either if it was a scheduled delivery. But I am way too trusting. A guy at the train station came up to me saying he was five dollars short for a train trip to someplace. I gave him the money cause you never know, maybe he was five dollars short... but still... something seemed weird. Wouldn't he need to have at least five dollars when he got wherever he was going? I just never know in situations like that and always give them the benefit of the doubt.

I trust people until they give me a reason not to and over the years I have become better ( or worse, depends on how you look at it) to figure out if I can trust someone or not, but I end up having doubts most of the time anyway,

Like I wrote in a thread the other day, Im different so I attract and sometimes look for different as well.Unfortunately, this also means I may attract people or be seen as attractive to people who have other issues and who are manipulative and bad for me and I may feel that something is off or I may not.Anything too extreme will make me run but if its subtle, more likely then not I will continue as if nothing has happened, until its more obvious.

Its tricky to figure out if its me the attracts these people or the other wayy around but I think it might be both.

With everyone else, Im very trusting.I dont see why I shouldnt be.I approcah people from where I stand and tend to think that because I wouldnt do a certain thing to hurt someone, then why would someone else? It makes no sense.

I used to be very trusting of people, until some man in a wheelchair sexually assaulted me. I keep my guard up a little more these days. After that incident, I went to the extreme of spiking my hair amongst other things to scare men away, though it was unnecessary for me to do that.

While technically true, thieves/robbers do not generally know of EXPECTED deliveries. Most people aren't going to accept a roll of carpet they weren't expecting. They will generally accept an unexpected smaller package.

I've been taken advantage of before by friends. I just learned to be cynical and less trusting. If I am not real close to someone, I don't do things for them. I have had people online telling me to do stuff and I tell them to do it themselves because why are they asking me.

I believe if you have to ask someone to post something for you, then it's probably a bad thing and you just don't want to face a consequence in case it was against the rules and have them take the blame instead. Or you knew the thread wouldn't turn out well so you have your friend post it for you so they get the crap not you.

I also don't trust sales people. I also don't give people money when they ask for it. I rarely give someone money not even caring if they could be lying or not. But if I have too much coins, I just get rid of them that way. But I will never give away big bucks.

Sometimes I do fall into it but not often. I think it's pretty common to trust your friends anyway when you know them and don't think they will take advantage of you or lie to you. AS or not. But sometimes people do stupid things just because their friends told them to do it so they assumed it must be okay when obviously it wasn't okay. My mom had a phrase for that "Two wrongs don't make it right" when my brother did something stupid with the truck just because his friend wanted to do it and talked him into it.

In middle school and high school kids would try and trick me or tell me to do things for them but I always refused because I couldn't understand why they wanted me to do it for them. Thanks to my past, I just didn't trust them fearing I was being set up. But yet I took my Barbies to school and left them in the locker instead.