Do you ever feel lonely?

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That was one of the question during my assesment. I can see now that spending excessive amount of time is not good for me, but I never feel lonely.

Do you?

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This might not be appropriate but I am sexually lonely, Its not that I want sex or anything. I just wish I could be in an intimate relationship with the aspect of love present. I find I am not even thinking sexual thoughts when looking at porn but rather am just lonely. Kinda sucks but I figure no one male or female would put up with me in a physical relationship. All I want is to be loved but I suppose we don't get to decide what lives we live and the grass is rarely greener on the other side.

I usually feel most lonely amid a crowd of people.

I feel so lonely it hurts. At night I wish I had a girl in bed with me, not really for the sex part (although that would be nice), but rather for someone to be there for me.

Yes, quite often. But I can go for long periods of time without seeing people I know before I will miss them, and I do not need nearly as much social contact as others seem to need.

But I have no friends, and I do feel lonely. I need to socialize, just not as much as most people, and I can handle less socializing than most normal people can. I'm ok with being out socializing for a couple of hours, but then I want to go home. And it's not something that I'd want to do every day, either.

Long long ago, in a galaxy far away.... in a marriage that lasted two decades, it annoyed me that though married, I felt lonely. The fact is, he and I did not share the same interests, and in fact, we just weren't very compatible. So we seldom spent much time together.

Now I'm again in a long-term relationship, but the difference is, we're a good match and I don't feel lonely. I feel nicely situated in the world.

It could happen to you!

I feel the same. Just to converse, laugh and have fun before falling asleep. Ah well. I guess I'll have to wait for the nurse in bed death bed.

Come on man, you're just 15... I never thought I would get my first kiss and night with a girl, and I finally got it earlier this year. Even at my age, there's still hope. Most people your age haven't even had sex yet, so don't worry, just keep trying

Yes, usually when others are talking and I feel left out.

Much like TheAP and Kraftiekortie for me. I'm rarely lonely when alone - I'm usually immersed in my special interests. But when I'm surrounded by people interacting too fast and subtly for me to comprehend, I can find myself feeling very lonely.

Yes, I feel lonely all the time since I lost my friends-way too much change all at once and my brother is like a stranger. My friend Julia thinks I need a roommate. I DEFINITELY know that wouldn't help - then I'd be lonely for my own woman-cave.

I feel the most alone when I'm surrounded by people. I feel the least alone when I'm on my own. When I was younger at school there were times when I felt alone,mainly during periods of bullying. I'm more comfortable in myself now and have more friends than I've ever had. The friends I have know I need to be alone to do my thing.

I get that too. Usually I just go about myh life, but sometimes it hits men that I have no idea what other people are. Do they see me? Are they thinking something right now? How is that possible?

Having a girlfriend would be great, but other then that I'm OK with the somewhat small amount of human contact I'm getting.

I actually found this question by the OP being a very good question... I felt for many, many years a total feeling of loneliness, wanting to fit in, being part of a group, a loving partner etc.... what i have come to realize myself now is that all these things were for me based on social expectations... From an early age we get programmed to expect to act in a certain way, with certain expectations in life, however not everyone fits that mould! however the seed is still planted.... When i was in Bali a year and a half ago, i felt immense loneliness, i would seek out the quietest restaurants, view people socializing and enjoying themselves from a distance and the few individuals i did get to talk to, i would freeze and not know what to say... I got on better with the locals and the cultural side than i did with anyone else... However over the last several months, i have started to learn that spending time on my own isnt a bad thing and that it is actually good for me.. I feel more calm, can get absorbed in my online interests of which for a long time i felt immense guilt about, which added to feeling more lonely... I still do to some extent and wish to meet a partner i could share some life experiences with, but i am learning not to focus on that and its associated emotions as i felt it was destroying me somewhat.... My mind in effect became a quest to find a partner, but for me i am very fussy, not in an expectational sort of way, but it needed that click, that feeling of connecting, which is kind of sad because i do have people interested in me but i have no romantic emotional feelings for them whatsoever... It wouldnt be fair on them nor me... Also the hard thing about Bali wasnt just the fact i was already feeling damn lonely, i had pretty much every indo man and woman questioning me on why i wasnt married yet ( being 40 and all) which really didnt bloody help the situation! haha.... But i think once you can accept more of the time you have for yourself and accept that it is ok to maybe spend more time alone than what the social norm tends to be, you might feel a little more confident and a little more self esteem,.... its a hard one but for me i do feel a little better with it all now and am not as worried as i used to be about being on my own, as i realize i am different and different in a good way and not a bad way, and one day i may meet someone that does get me and not preoccupied with trying to destroy me or play with my head, as i seem to attract people on another spectrum, that isnt so good for my mental health!... I know its hard, but try not to focus on the loneliness, but focus on what you enjoy.... trust me, talking about rugby , beer and women gets very boring very quickly! your not missing much! lol... find online groups in your interests, get talking with them online or/and in your area...