obsessions and stress

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Hello

Has anyone here ever had an obsession that couldn't be fullfilled because it required someone else to do something that they wouldnt do. And you couldn't do the things that may have enabled the obsession to be completed. If so how did you get over it and move on . Im having real difficulty and its causing me a lot of anxity , stress and depression . I have spent the whole day today in a cold sweat and getting closer and closer to breaking down.

bb natty

i tend to nurture certain obsessional interests as a way of escaping others. tho i have been romantically fixated if that is more along the lines of what you are thinking.

why does your current obsession involve needing something from someone else?

also, what makes you think that by this person doing what you want that the obsession will be completed? (to my thinking if it i an obsession, by nature would it not make you want more of the same)

People obsessions is always purely psychological for me so I have never had this. Like my obsession with a favorite singer of mine, it is not that anxiety prone because what I have read of him and his writing style and my analysis of what he does in interviews and things we are much alike in some aspects. I enjoy observing from a distance and piecing people together, like every other obsession though it is all about the mind. I'd love to have a conversation with him, learn from him, watch him live or work together with him (as he does much more than just sing, fascinating and so so SO very intelligent.)

I hear this is common for most AS/HFA; differentiating a person from an object is difficult or doesn't naturally happen. This is much the case for me.


However with other obsessions, one's that were not so healthy for me or one's that I could not look in to RIGHT AWAY would make me have a bit of anxiety sometimes. Like I would be on the bus and something triggers a memory of an old obsession or clicks in a new one. I can't really do much on the bus especially if its a new one that I don't have knowledge on or much knowledge on which would make me enable to sit and think and build idea's on it. This makes get a little fidgety sometimes.

I kind of had this when I was obsessed with people who I stopped seeing. Like when I became obsessed with someone at college and then left. I never saw them again but I gradually became less obsessed and now I don't give a crap.