How long does it take for people to hate you?

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On average, it takes about 2 years for things to go sour with people. Then I have to disappear.

Often it's me that walks away.

No more than a few seconds usually.

Depends on the people and what they see in me. If they really see me and all of me, it can be a very short time. But on average it can be a about a year or a couple of years if I don't let them see everything. But those who decide to love me the way I am and really genuinely do, tend to be loyal for life as am I.

Usually people like me as long as I try to fit in. Then after a bit, they get offended by something, usually my blunt manner of speaking, or my stubbornness. Then given more time, people actually like me because they see how I really am.

There are always going to be people who don't like me because I'm not the way they feel I should be. There really isn't anything I can do about that.

Oh, 2 years is a good, long run! With me, it just takes a few encounters usually. It's not usually HATE though. They just get put off, figure I'm a bit off, or weird, or just not worth it, or not interesting or enjoyable to them as they had though I would be.

I seem to have a natural talent for that. NTs also hates others NTs. Not sure why I bore people, even if i'm quiet. Fortunately I have some few friends who still stand me.

When I was a kid, about two or three years. I don't know if friendships would have rebounded, we moved a lot and that meant a new school.

As a teen less than a year, depression probably didn't help.

Now in the middle age category, no more than one or two interactions. Let's just say I don't get invited out for drinks with my husband and his friends. At least not more than once.

I've been with my husband 20 years, but I fear he's finally reached his breaking point with me. Wish I knew how NT's do it.

Since I live in a place where the locals marvels the foreign... I had no idea. The norm here thinks I'm hilarious, clueless, or odd coming from another background, and are practically pestering about.
Even if I'm being annoying by asking the same questions all over again... They thought it's funny too.

The only ones who truly hated me so far are either sociopaths or narcissists or drama queens who seeks conflict and received apathy from me.

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On average, the first few hours are hell for me trying to adjust how to interact properly in a situation with a new person a fast as possible.

If they don't hate me by this point, things are cool as long as I can keep this fascade up.

Then there's a window of a few days to two weeks before 85-100% of people shun me.

Any remaining percentage usually sticks around because they think I'm quirky in that "I find you entertainingly weird but don't get too close to me" way. They lose interest after a month or two and then all contact is lost.

As a result I've only had one or two people I've seen as "friends" at a time and I have to keep them at a safe distance if and when I do/say something that will end the relationship.