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IcelandicGuy
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30 Apr 2007, 12:41 pm

Does it make a lot of a difference socially for aspies if they have NT siblings. I am just curious to know since I don´t have any brothers or sisters myself.



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30 Apr 2007, 12:43 pm

I have two very young brothers (neither are diagnosed with AS but I think one might have it.) So it's different with younger ones, but I would hate to have an NT brother or sister of similar age. I guess I'd have got used to them if they'd always been there though.



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30 Apr 2007, 12:44 pm

My younger sister seems very NT and we seldom got along growing up..and hardly speak to each other as adults.



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30 Apr 2007, 12:46 pm

I have an older sister and a younger brother, both NT's...I never felt wanted in their circle of friends......Looking back, it hurt alot, but it was what it was..You cannot make them like you, so you just go on and deal with it....I do not think they could ever understand what it was like being in my shoes....



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30 Apr 2007, 1:17 pm

I have an older brother who definitely has AS but won't even think about a diagnosis. We got in a terrible fistfight many years ago and have spoken maybe five times since then.

I also have a little sister who is a pain in my @$$. We have never gotten along and I can't see us ever having a healthy relationship. She's NT.


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30 Apr 2007, 1:24 pm

My older sister and I never exchanged harsh words so by that right we've always gotten along. However the fact that she didnt want to be around me the same as the other kids just served to make my isolation complete. We stayed out of each others way, minded our own business and simply occupied the same house.

She calls me once a year or so now and we always have kind words for each other but there was never a real relationship.



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30 Apr 2007, 1:41 pm

IcelandicGuy wrote:
Does it make a lot of a difference socially for aspies if they have NT siblings. I am just curious to know since I don´t have any brothers or sisters myself.


I'm 20, and I have a 18 year-old sister and two twin siblings (boy and girl), they are 10 years old. I think they are NT, they are very social and have a lot of friends on school, although sometimes they show some of my traits (maybe it's imitation).

Does it make a lot of a difference socially for aspies if they have NT siblings? Yes.

I think my twin siblings are annoying, they frequently bother me with things they know I hate (hugs or being touched, for example). They are one of the negative differences for some social facts, because my parents and other relatives compare them with me at their age, they are something like the "perfect kids".

When I was younger my other sister was the only person who can stand me, but when I was 14-16 I didn't like being with my sister and I don't know why. Now I know my sister have helped me always with socializing, I ask for her point of view about social facts almost always and she has a good answer. Frequently I'm with her and her group of friends, and she likes my presence.



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30 Apr 2007, 2:11 pm

I am the only autistic among seven children, but we have an unbreakable bond. I never felt the need to make friends in school, because I had so many brothers and sisters.

Also, my two older brothers started puberty when I was eight years old, so I was sucked into the liking of girls very early (I would not be such a lover if it weren't for our age gap.).



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30 Apr 2007, 2:20 pm

I have a sister who's an aspie, and I'm pretty sure I'm one too. I think that both of my other sisters have some of the aspie traits, and I'm 99% sure my dad is an aspie. Is it hereditary or are we just a weird freaking coincidence? It seems the only people I've been able to realte to socially (or even talk to for any length of time) are 2 of my 3 sisters and my dad.



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30 Apr 2007, 2:25 pm

I have sisters and brothers. My older sister who is the most normal of all my siblings pretty much tortured me my whole childhood. Then I spent my teen and early adult years in her shadow since I wasn't diagnosed I heard things like "why aren't you more like your sister" and in relation to college and work "You would be successful like your sister if you applied yourself"

I was pretty much blamed for my ways as if I had chose my weirdness and struggles. I'm much happier now that I quit listening to the comparisons and have drawn boundaries around my sister and just decided that its not cause I'm odd, its cause I'm prettier than her -joke but kind of not, ok its a joke. maybe.



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30 Apr 2007, 2:40 pm

I have younger sister (by 3 years), who is NT (she does have ADHD), but she is very soical. I have to say yes it makes a difference because you can meet people through their friends. I have done that and my sister and her friends don't mind if I come a long to go to a movie or I'm around the house when my sister has them over.

Also, my sister and I are very good friends. Sometimes you wouldn't know it but we are. We have a lot in common and will help each other a lot. So I think that has helped me a lot because she would know about more othe popular things like slang, and would help me out. However, it took her awhile to believe me and my parents that I had AS, but now she does understand it. I think more than anything it is hard for the other siblings when most of the focus is on the one child with AS.



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30 Apr 2007, 2:47 pm

My 2 kids are 2 years apart. My son is an aspie and my daughter is PDD-NOS/NLD. She plays guitar, violin and sings and he plays bass and writes music. They need a drummer and a keyboard player. :D


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30 Apr 2007, 3:22 pm

poopylungstuffing wrote:
My younger sister seems very NT and we seldom got along growing up..and hardly speak to each other as adults.


That's the same with my NT sister and I. The two of us are very different from one another. We don't see eye to eye on anything. She was always embarrassed about my differences, and I don't see it stoping, any time soon.



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30 Apr 2007, 3:26 pm

sonofghandi wrote:
I have a sister who's an aspie, and I'm pretty sure I'm one too. I think that both of my other sisters have some of the aspie traits, and I'm 99% sure my dad is an aspie. Is it hereditary or are we just a weird freaking coincidence? It seems the only people I've been able to realte to socially (or even talk to for any length of time) are 2 of my 3 sisters and my dad.


Actually it is hereditary.. very much so if one or both of the parents show symptoms of the condition.

As a rough estimate just based on my own research and first hand accounts of family makeup among people here on the board Id say the odds of having a child who is also on the autistic spectrum is between 50% and 80% (depending on whether its one parent or both).

One of the reasons I'm hesitant about having children of my own.



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30 Apr 2007, 3:35 pm

I have a very NT younger sister. She's great though. I think she thinks that I'm really weird but most of the time she likes me because she knows I'm a nice person. What she tells her friends about me though I don't know! She's the opposite of me in many ways because she's very outgoing and sure of herself but as we've got older we get along ok most of the time.



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01 May 2007, 3:34 am

I watch my son (who is AS) and my daughter who so far shows no signs of anything even though she is only 2. She is extremely social, destructive of everything he is attempting to do (he likes to sort colors and she will walk up and take one block away and walk off with a huge grin on her face before she commences to hiding it), and he seems to have a LOT of difficulty with it. He doesn't understand why he gets in trouble for certain things and she does not-the age difference rarely registers to him, if it's a rule, it's a rule, no matter if you're 90 or 2, so he gets VERY angry and frustrated with her a lot of the time. He also will follow her around trying to explain that it is his block and she should give it back because it isn't nice to take it away from him, of course, she just looks at him and babbles because once it's entered her hands, she considers it hers, lol.

I don't know if it will stay like this, but right now they are 5 and 2, and he has an enormous amount of difficulty comprehending the age gap and distinguishing his own interests from what her motives might be. The way he explains it is "if I'm doing something, she should just KNOW automatically that it will bother me for her to do something mean like that."

He's a lot like this with the neighbors who are around his age as well, he doesn't understand that their imaginations/minds don't think the way he does, and he worries for them when they do things that look dangerous to him, lol. He's like a little parent following them around and telling them why they shouldn't jump off of the steps because they could possibly fall and break their heads open. So I doubt it will change much as Libby gets older as far as his relationship with her goes, the only difference most likely will be that she will be able to talk and tell him what she thinks instead of babbling. But I guess we'll see :)