Problems with Therapy

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Please try to understand rather just laughing rather like most people do.

My therapist is quite judgemental. I told about some problems when I was younger when I was forced to take deep breaths and told that I was the worst person in the world if I find it hard. She wasn't understanding at all.

Also, I told that I never really understood the oncoming signf of anxiety and that I wasn't never taught them. She told me that "I'm an adult now and I figure it out myself rather than trying to help me.

What should I do? Should I try to talk to her

Go find another therapist.

I agree, try to find another therapist. If this one expects you to figure things out on your own, then what's the point of seeing her? I hope you can find someone more understanding.

I strongly agree with the previous responses.

Tell her how you feel. If you get no where, see someone else and file a complaint too.

I think you should look for another therapist.

You will need to find a therapist who will work with exploring your physical sensations and emotional sensations first. The therapist you are working with right now is assuming you have knowledge that you do not yet have, and is taking the next steps. They do not understand how you cannot have knowledge about these things within yourself.

But they do speak a truth in that it will have to be you who is going to pay attention to your bodily sensations and notice them, because they cannot do that for you. But still, most people will find things like clenching, more stimming, breathing a bit faster, more rapid heartbeat, etc, as signs.

Mindfulness is a therapy you could look into doing. It's basically the practice of just that; noticing the world outside of you at any given moment in time, or noticing the world inside of you at any given point in time. It's when you consciously take time aside and focus on things, noticing them. The goal is to be able to notice before your anxiety reaches the stages where deep breathing becomes too hard, for instance. Find someone who is patient with you and who will give you explicit homework in this practice if you do this.

If I were in your position I would find another therapist. She doesn't sound supportive at all. I've tried a therapist who was a bit like that with me and I got much further much more quickly with someone else. I didn't want to change because of the stress which changing sometimes involves but I'm glad I did. Sometimes it's just not a good fit between the therpist and the person which makes it hard to build a workable 'therapeutic alliance'.

According to my psychiatrist report, I had a counselor that thought I had to toughen up. I don't know if it was the school counselor that thought that or the clinical psychologist I saw in 4th grade. But I think those words can be very dismissive.