Sunny days depress me.

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It's a really nice day outside where I am. The sun's out, the temperature's perfect, not a cloud in the sky.

Am I about to go out there? Not on your life. I'm scared. Scared of the brightness, the people, sudden noises, everything. I'm just sitting near a window and watching it go by. I feel like the sunlight is mocking me and I can't wait until it's gone. I wish it was cold, gray, and raining. I feel much better on days like that because nobody else is out there either, and I don't have to feel like I'm missing anything.

Do nice days get you down, too?

I hate sunny days, too, but not for the same reason you do. I don't like hot weather, I LOVE rainy weather, and I dream of living somewhere snowy and cold.

I don't have the whole 'the world is passing me by' thing that you seem to have, and I'm thankful for that. I'm happiest at home by myself, watching a horror movie or reading a book, while the rain pours outside.

If being at home on these sunny days bothers you and you can't bring yourself to go out and participate in the world, then spend a little bit of time figuring out what can make you happy AT HOME. I've read a lot about happiness and gratitude over the years, and I do believe that it's a choice. It might be a harder choice for people like us, but it's still a choice that we can make.

Start small. Be happy that you have somewhere to live. Doesn't matter if it's not your dream home, it's a roof over your head, and there are plenty of people who don't have that. Be thankful for the food in your pantry and fridge. Be thankful for your clothes and shoes. Be thankful that there's a world out there that you COULD participate in if you felt like it. Be thankful for this forum, which makes connecting with people like yourself so much easier. Once you start, you will understand that despite the many difficulties of being the way we are, things could be a hell of a lot worse - you only have to watch the news to know that. And make this a habit. If you make the effort every day to deliberately find things to be happy about and grateful for, it can and will change your outlook on life. It won't stop you having bad days - everyone has bad days - but it will give you some perspective and it will change your brain chemistry for the better.

I'm not trying to come across as some guru-type here, and I hope it's not coming across that way. I've been mired in major depression and anxiety disorders for years, so I feel your pain, but I also know that small things can make a big difference. And, if nothing else, connecting with people online is a great for people like us. Take advantage of it

I hope you feel better soon <3

Sunny days are depressing to me when it is cold... don't know why but it hits me a certain way. I like hot sunny days though. Have you tried wearing sunglasses? Sunglasses used to really bother me because I can't stand anything on my face, but I've gotten used to them and put them on before I ever step out the door. Seems to make a difference.

Sunny days bother me, but I can fix the terrible brightness by wearing sunglasses.

I still avoid going out because I'm terrified of getting sunburn. At school we were told about skin cancer a lot, so that affected me as well.

You should come live up here, for every day of sunny, warm weather we have must be followed by ten days of cold, wet, overcast weather.

The worst part is listening to people mention it over and over again. "Hey it's raining", they say. "Oh really? I hadn't even noticed." I say. Either don't use smalltalk, or don't talk at all.

I totally relate, I prefer the rain, the way the sound muffles everything and there are less people around. Sunlight in my eyes winds me up and the heat is unbearable. I find winter worse though in some ways because the sun is lower in the sky, and they always have the heating on full blast on public transport, even though everyone is wrapped up because they have to go outside before they can get on a bus or train.

Sunny days also depress me. I prefer the sky to be dark and stormy.

Summer's my favorite season, but I don't enjoy it when I have nothing meaningful to do on summer days.

I do at least enjoy sitting at home with the windows open - the nice summer breeze, hearing the birds and trees, and the bright sunny backyard, but otherwise a lot of the time I do long to be out there having fun.

You think that's hard to bear?

Where I use to live was a tropical tourist destination, meaning it was essentially summer all year round.

Luckily I had friends and way more things to do there than this dump I live in now, but when I wasn't doing anything I was depressed, at home, laying by the window feeling heat-fatigue/stroke from the blistering heat.

They don't depress me or anything like that, but sunny days drain my energy more quickly than overcast days. The brightness also hurts my eyes.
I usually prefer overcast, but not always. Despite the physical reasons for disliking sunny days, I prefer overcast mostly for aesthetic reasons. I just like the "mood" better.

The sun bothers me. The glare.

I always walk with my head down only looking up to navigate. I wear a black hat to block as much as possible and cut down on the bounce back. All of that helps me not look at or deal with people too...sooooo...night helps with that as well.

I can't afford sunglasses because it would require prescription and for some reason, I can only feel comfortable in round granny lenses. I actually have a collection of antique, vintage eye wear including pinz-nez. But that brings up problem two

I would also mess up a pair (or both) switching from indoor and outdoor. I can't wear tint changing because even at the lowest level, it still alters my color vision.

My natural body clock is night time anyway. It is very artificial to me to be awake during the day hours. I try to maintain the schedule as much as possible. My sleep is all fubar'd and I always get a second burst of energy about midnight.

Even when I was a kid, I would sneak out at night and walk around whatever subdivision I lived at the time. Some of them were far enough out to have a lot of dead space. No cars, no houses. Was great. That lasted until I moved to NY. Now, there is no quiet time. Try Asia...They never shut down.....

Even in High school I worked as a Sunday Midnight Radio Disc Jockey from Midnight to 6AM and then go to school on Monday. I've always been able to put in long hours. But, night is my domain.

I prefer cool to hot. It's easier to bundle up than to shed heat. That crap is expensive. And I love cloudy days. Especially when there is no shadow. That soft, diffuse light that doesn't stab me in the eyes. I've even gotten migrains from it. Rain is even better. That white noise, the feeling of moisture in the air.

My first 'zone out that I remember was during rain in third grade in the Bahamas. I sat next to a window. It was raining and I put my arm out to feel the rain. I just 'went away' with the sensations, the sound. Everything was just gone but that.

I was so far gone that the students around me couldn't get my attention. The teacher eventually threw an eraser at my head. Whacked me pretty good. They aren't hard, but that snapped me out of it.

But, when I was growing up, if there was no lightning, out playing in the rain. Day or night. Night was best to see the light from houses and street lamps and cars sending out streaky, colored light shows on the streets and puddles.

And, that was not hard in Florida. The place where you can get a wet and dry line in the road, the rain is so localized. You could set your watch by the rainstorm every afternoon. Or rain and not a cloud in the sky. We called that one "The Devil is beating his wife." No kidding......

I am a lot more comfortable when it is overcast and night time.

I dont care for the brightness of it too much, but I need the heat, so I tolerate it. I cannot stand cold places or things (dairy products are the one and only exception; even something like drinking water, I microwave it so it isnt at all cold); during winter I barely leave the house, and my room is always the warmest/hottest place in the house.

As for dealing with people though, hmm. To some degree, in my experience, it depends on WHERE I go. I dont enter big cities; I live a good distance south of Chicago, and you couldnt pay me to go into that hellhole. I live more in the middle of bloody nowhere, which suits me fine. I tend to just go to places where I'm not likely to run into crowds. There are fortunately many such places around here.

But the bright sunlight can still be an issue. I deal with it partly by having my sleep schedule not be quite the norm. I used to be on a total night-only schedule, never up during the day... but that became problematic, so I had to change it. But not all the way... half of my time awake is in the day, the other half is at night. I go to bed about an hour before dawn. So I have plenty of quiet nighttime, which also makes going to the store easier if I want to do it that way.

I was really excited for the summer but all it's doing is making me feel depressed.
I like when it's darker and around 60˚.