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Does anybody else feel oblivious to how long ago something happened?

I remember things by the situation that was going on at the time, or there is always something specific linked to it if someone asks me about something (i.e. I remember you said that because you were standing by the table, I can see it in my mind clearly what was going on at the time).

But if someone asks me what day something happened, I can't remember for the life of me. Everything just seems to kind of run together (time wise) sometimes and it gets really confusing, and when I do think I remember when something happened, someone argues it with me and I wind up feeling stupid and caving because I figure they probably remember when it actually happened better than I do, yet I will argue what was said and how it was said all day long because I can actually recall the entire thing happening and all of the details. (of course leading to more argument because "you can't even remember what day it happened, how can you remember what I said?")

Yes! I have this exact problem, and I know what you mean about people assuming that if you can't remember the day, you can't possibly remember the conversation, when actually I can recall it perfectly!

Do you also find that in general you don't have a good concept of the passing of time?
Unless I look at a clock every few minutes or set alarm and reminders in my phone or computer diary, I have no idea whether something has taken 30 minutes or 2 hours! I have to "clock-watch" otherwise I would be (and have been in the past) late for everything! (Although I have sometimes been ridiculously early too!)

Yes, but luckily, being young I usually have the chronological reference of the age of the people and time I am remembering - but that is looking back 10-15 years...

More recent stuff I wouldn't have the foggiest and often merge experiences into one

In the end, time doesn't start or end in concievable terms, and so it does just run into each other. We only have weeks (was going to use days, but thats todo with revolutions of the earth) for the conveniance of organising our time in a constant manner between everyone.

I do that all the time! I'm always getting the kids to bed late if I'm absorbed in something, or if we're playing a board game or something-I have absolutely no clue how long anything takes or how long it's been. I stopped wearing a watch and I find myself searching for working clocks when I'm in the store just to make sure I'm home when my son gets off of the bus! If I can't find one, I wind up rushing, panicking, freaking out and wind up at home 2-3 hours earlier than I needed to be. I do it at social events also, if I have my kids with me-they have a bedtime, I freak out if they are half hour late, same with dinner, so if I have to be home to do these things (if I'm just visiting and not staying for dinner or something) I will ask the person every 5 minutes or so just to make sure I get there on time.

The other night in my therapist's office I was talking about how I'd made this phone call because I was trying to get some information. He asked me what day I called and I drew a blank and responded "yesterday... maybe the day before... I'm not sure"

...and I almost never know what day it actually is. I'll go to the doc on Saturday thinking it is Friday-the only thing that I know what day it is ever is if something specific reminds me of it (looking at a calender on that day for instance, or my son telling me over and over what day it is), but I just have no sense of time.

I am always losing track of time, misjudging how long things will take and being late.
I also find, that things that happened weeks ago seem like yesterday, whilst yesterday seems like weeks ago. I don't like going anywhere without either my phone or watch, since then I have a means of telling the time.

yeah, I've been meaning to get a watch for a long while now, lol, but I always misplace them when I have them. Along with losing track of time, I tend to lose track of most items, lol. I can tell you where my notebooks are, where my ink pens are, etc., but need help finding my shoes or sunglasses on a regular basis.

...and there has been many an occasion where I try to argue that something just happened just last week to be corrected that it happened one or 2 months ago.

I have no sense of time either I've taken my kids to school on the weekend and if people don't remind me i forget about school holidays , sometimes i've tried to take them early sometimes late . Once i woke up at 8 panicced and started yelling at the kids to hurry up and get dressed cos they were going to be late for school, they looked at me funny and then told me it was 8pm and that they were just going to bed.
I felt very stupid , thank god my kids are clever and know whats going on with the days of the week .

bb natty

days seem too quickly for me to keep track of time.

natty

lol, yeah, I'd be a real mess if it wasn't for people around me telling me what day it is sometimes. I've forgotten about doctor's appointments (geez, they really need to switch that thing where if you miss an appointment 2 times without notice you can no longer be seen at that office-everything is like that here) and tried insisting to them that I just DID NOT KNOW what day it was and was fully intending to come in the next day-unfortunately they don't care and I've tried to tell them to do that little reminder thing the day before an appointment, but they rarely actually call, or they call a week in advance instead >.< Lately I've been hanging up post-it notes and take one off each day until the appointment, but it doesn't work so well as I can't remember if I removed one earlier that day or not, lol.

I've lost 2 docs this year and one is on the brink of not letting me come back due to just that.

I think that my problem with it is that I'm always thinking, so events just kind of blur together-some I catch, some I don't. I can tell someone what they said a year ago, but I can't remember what the lady on the phone told me yesterday... or whenever it was that I called her.

I have a very good memory for things a long time ago and this means I often forget that toehr people don't. So I might be talking to my mum about a book we both read a year ago and she can't remember the details and I wonder why. And then I start to figure out it was over a year ago so she might have forgotten.

is the fourth dimension.

My memory is completely distorted; I'm unsure if what I remember is the truth, lie or a bit of both; or neither. The events that are written in my time confound me more than my current confused conscious. Did the events happen, if yes when did they happen; when I was counted chronologically or when I counted my own conscious? If no am I delusional, do I dare ask myself if my dreams long gone are in reality my memory and my current mind is in fact insidiously insane and much like another member of this forum you all don’t exist?

Time kills me….

I'm never punctual; I arrive when I arrive, no later or earlier to no one’s time other than my own…which doesn’t exist.

I have absolutely no sense of time, seasons, holidays what so ever. I'm completely oblivious. The other day I had some clothes in the washer on spin it when from 4 to 1min in an instant. I tested it five times after that there was nothing wrong with it. Other days things seem to last really long.

lol, that's the worst for me... talking about something that happened a long time ago that I'm seeing perfectly in my mind, and having someone argue that I'm not remembering it right when I know they just don't remember things like I do.

My bf does that a lot when talking to me and he'll say things like "okay, fine, you remember it right, I'm completely wrong" and I always respond with "thank you"... lol, which may seem rude or arrogant, but I don't see a point in telling him anything else because he's right-he DOESN'T remember like I do. ...and then I ask him how long ago it happened

and daniel, I do that too, I wind up questioning myself, then wonder why I can see something so picture perfect and how someone else can say that it's not right, often leaving me confused and thinking of the same thing over and over again to see if I'm missing details, lol.

I have no sense of time, never know what day of the week it is or the date, sometimes I am confused about the month or even the year. I keep clocks in everyroom and check the date on the PC every morning just so I know and then have to recheck through out the day.

I have a shower issue, I will think I was in the shower for 15 min and then get out and its been over an hour. Family used to complain about my long showers and I didn't know what the problem was. I thought they were just being jerks.

lol, I'm the opposite-I take baths because I get chronic ear infections, but I'll get relaxed and everything, make sure I'm clean, and it will feel like it's been an hour. Often when I apologize for how long I took, I find out it was only 15 minutes.

...and as far as stories go, my mom just ignores me or says "that didn't happen" and then goes on to something else, and I'll just stand there, looking at the wall after she walks off, lol.