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08 Jun 2016, 9:59 am

Hi guys,

I know that the usual autism symptom is supposed to be 'does not feel empathy' or at least less than NTs. In some cases for me that's true, but in others I've noticed that I sometimes have much more extreme empathy than other people?

For example with sad movies or books or whatever. Sometimes they can make me feel so down that I become almost depressed for weeks. Or just when I hear sad stories. Like, today I read a story on a site about crazy stuff happening in customer service and things like that. It was actually about an old man harassing a female cashier and then she slapped him so hard he started to cry and walked away without the stuff he had paid for. Like, obviously not a situation where you would normally feel for the guy, since he deserved it, but since I read that I somehow feel super sad? Sometimes even the mention of people crying or being in a bad situation makes me feel super down, to an amount that seems unusual. I remember, even as a child, I watched the first Pokemon movie with a cousin and found it super sad, so I started crying and did not stop for the rest of the day. Like - I guess a bunch of people would cry during a movie, but to cry for the rest of the day because a fictional movie made you feel so bad seems unusual? Sometimes I also get these almost intrusive thoughts about making other people sad. Like, for a while after I had turned 18, I kept imagining 'what if I had just moved out the second I turned 18 and told my mom I never want to see her again'. Because we did have a kind of strained relationship in the past but it was quite good when I was 18, but I had to imagine this sad scenario again and again for some reason?

Do you guys know this feeling? I hate it, because even if my life is fine at the moment, I just need to think of something sad in a movie or something and feel super down.


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08 Jun 2016, 10:16 am

My emotions are raw and child-like, so when I feel something, I FEEL something. I have too much empathy for every being on Earth, so I need to try to have compassion instead.


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08 Jun 2016, 11:23 am

Not having as much empathy as NTs is a myth about autism, excess empathy in the way you describe is very common.


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08 Jun 2016, 11:29 am

You may enjoy reading the blog posts by Musings of an Aspie. She writes about many of the issues you mentioned in the original posting.

https://musingsofanaspie.com/essential-reading/


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08 Jun 2016, 1:33 pm

Kuraudo777 wrote:
My emotions are raw and child-like, so when I feel something, I FEEL something. I have too much empathy for every being on Earth, so I need to try to have compassion instead.


That's the same for me.


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