do I want to be diagnosed/should I get diagnosed?

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So I have always been seen as weird by other kids, whether it was because I would isolate myself from others or tell another kid about the history on why North and South Korea are separated as a 9 year old. Although after elementary school (around fourth grade) I started to kind of get the hang of things, I sort of figured out the algorithm of what kids thought was funny at that age, fart jokes, ( I literally made fart noises with my hand and was praised as a comedy god) so I was somewhat liked by more than one person at school, I got invited to birthday parties and had people to play with on the playground. But, all that pretty much unraveled once I got to middle school, apparently, kids had become young adults and fart jokes aren't funny anymore, so I was lost again. I'm 16 now and still struggling to interact in school and out of school, in having conversations with other kids and getting bullied quite frequently. I had always thought that the so called "normal" kids were the odd or peculiar ones and that I was normal, basically that there was nothing wrong with me and it was their fault. But last year my mom just sort of snapped on me, she said that what I was doing wasn't healthy or normal, I was over obsessive about video games, I don't come out of my room and interact with my family, I don't want to hang out with other kids outside of school, I don't get invited to anything because I stay inside, I isolate myself, I'm inflexible to change, I don't know how to talk to people, I'm extremely black and white, I have no empathy, etc.. After that I started to question myself like "Am I normal?" and "Do I want to be normal?". I started seeing a psychologist at the request of my parents, after a few sessions he said that I could have either have AS/ASD or Social Anxiety Disorder, so when I got home I started to research both (I knew a little about ASD before, my cousin has it), I looked at Social Anxiety and although I had some of those symptoms, a lot of it didn't match up with what I was going through, then I looked at multiple articles on AS, and I just felt this strange feeling in my chest looking at the symptoms like "This sounds exactly like me." I took the AQ test (43), the EQ test (3), Aspie Quiz (Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 162 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 38 of 200
You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)
I told my mom that I think I might have it and she went into complete denial and said that it was impossible and that I was just an extreme introvert. It's been six months since my first session and the psychologist still hasn't made a diagnosis even though he said multiple times that I definitely have some symptoms of ASD. My question is, would a diagnosis help me/do I want to be diagnosed?

Do you have sensory issues, the desire to rock back and forth or bounce stuff? I think that separates the genuine autistic from the simply socially awkward.

Oh I forgot to mention that. I do have really sensitive eyes (almost impossible for me to drive at night with all the bright lights) and ears and am also sensitive to touch(absolutely can't stand people touching me, even family) and according to others I'm "too fidgety" as I constantly wring my hands, crack my fingers, and bounce my legs when I'm sitting down. I also forgot to mention that one of the biggest things that I'm confused about is people saying that I'm being impolite/rude because I don't make eye contact at all, and that I'm not listening, which is false. Eye contact is just too overwhelming for me, my psychologist told me to look at their chin or nose but even looking in those places feels really uncomfortable.