Aspies obsessed with social interaction?

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I have realized what my new passion is.


I have become obsessed with socializing.

Let it be an obsession that lasts a lifetime.

^ Wht that person said.

There's no such thing as trying to hard to socialize. If you really set your mind to it, you'll get better.

Been there dropped that.

It's been my obsession for as long as I've known myself. No wonder, since it's always been my obstacle in life. I've become such an expert that people come to me for advice, when I'm the one with the poor social skills.

That is a very good obsession to have.

Funny how this term is used all over the place, don't see us turning round & calling Nts Obsessed about socializing, going out, football, lining up outside a concert hall waiting to buy tickets about the only time they do stand in line for hours is when they need tickets...


Obsession or you just trying to 1 side negotiate...

I wish i had that obsession hah

Yeah Im the same. All night I dream about people, there are many NTs in my dreams, but I seem to have no problems interacting with them.

But, all night I sit in bars and restaruants with people, or climb mountains with them, or climb sand dunes to find people gathered at the top.

Then I wake up and Im alone, all day, in my own world. Unless I meet up wiith an aspie.

Strangely my interests are always related to people, like psychology.

Im like a social butterfly with no wings. Or legs for that matter.

I know what your saying as I have over learned so well how to act the part, I can only relax and be really happy in my own space, where I can be my true self and of course on forums such as this...

I have almost become to good at giving advice, but the NT's still do not really understand me!

Haha it's funny you say that... I was always the advice person. I could always tell when people were into each other and what they were thinking and stuff, even though when it came to me I would never, ever know when someone was flirting or liked me. I guess it stems from years and years of being on the outside looking in and observing people, trying to work out how to interact like an NT.

I completely relate to this, and it is a relief because I've always felt that maybe this was not a proper 'special interest' but it just seems quite common for women who are on the spectrum to have this focus!! !

With me, even though I am obsessed with 'people' and interpersonal interactions, relationships and politics, I don't really enjoy socialising that much I don't think. I become obsessed with the idea of the 'ideal' social interaction. Saying that, I love online interactions a lot. I grew up with a lot of internet friends and I really enjoyed interacting through text. I sort of wondered maybe whether I just had social anxiety but I feel like it might be a bit more complicated than that...I'd have to consider what it was that drove me to preferring online interaction in the first place .

I'm also obsessed with socialising. I need to be out with my friends three evenings a week after dinner. I also like to go to restaurants with Barb and Pro-life events with Dean.

I feel this keenly. On the one hand, I want to be outgoing and make friends and do things. However, I often get overwhelmed with anxiety and end up canceling plans at the last minute. I want to be social but I fear the rejection that comes with it/ I've had people leave me behind when it comes to friendships or hanging out, so it's hard for me to pluck up the courage sometimes to even text.

(Although on the way home from work, my mom pestered me into contacting someone I'd lost contact with and we'll see how that goes)

Wow, great thread! It is so nice to read that other people deal with this. I crave social interaction and think I really can relate to people based on the struggles of my life and have been/can be the great advice giver too. ( just can't seem to follow my own advice sometimes, it is one of the most puzzling things) But in the end the cravings go unfulfilled. I don't know that I would say that I am obsessed with it, but it's always on my radar.

Yes I think it's a good idea, if any ASDer decides to make it their special interest to become successful at social stuff. I did that myself when I was much younger, and enjoyed some success. These days I'm just interested rather than obsessed, I'm more content with my own company than I used to be. I'll never entirely give up on people, but I've more accepted my limits and stay within them, mostly by being very picky about who I'm prepared to hang out with and for how long. I don't have much time for many aspects of the mainstream neurotypical perspective, it's interesting but I wouldn't want to live there, for the most part. I'm still very one-on-one and I'm much more comfy with individuals who don't conform to mainstream stereotypes too much.