Is this because my sister is expecting?

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My sister is now around fourteen weeks pregnant and I am thrilled, I have always adored babies and can't wait for the chance to be around the little one.
In the past few weeks however I've had a huge urge for something new, a new possession. Not something like new pens or anything of that sort but like, a new doll (which I collect) or pet. Is this because I want something that's mine? Is it because of the excitement of the new baby that I want something to mother? Or has anyone got any other suggestions.
It's gotten to the point I'm trying to make new things for myself and then get downhearted when it isn't up to standard or carries enough love with it.
Thank you for your help, I'd love to know what you think might be causing this odd feeling.

It would seem connected, yes, in my take on it anyway. Because I can imagine feeling something similar -- I kind of did when my own sister had her baby -- I wanted a dog!

Someone else expecting a joyous new arrival in their life, a living thing to cherish, which changes their life, can make you wonder what you've got to look forward to, no matter how joyous you feel for your sister, or how involved you will be with her baby. You can feel somewhat of a shared joy but it's still not completely your own event and that can be an empty feeling you feel an urge to fill.

When my sister had her first baby I suddenly found myself wanting a puppy. I just wanted my own "joyous big change" to look forward to and to lose myself in.

Be careful with living things like a new pet though -- it's a serious undertaking to give an animal a home; you must be sure it's "forever" or it's not fair to the animal.

Certainly a new doll might fit the bill. Or perhaps even volunteering at an animal shelter where you will suddenly have lots of "pets" to care for and be part of their welfare?

Have you thought of maybe a brand new hobby? Shopping for a new wardrobe if that's anything that interests you? Redesigning your room -- painting the walls, doing a mural if you're creative?

I am very creative and have started several new attempts at hobbies but nothing seems to fit in the way I would hope. It's a bit annoying actually because my mum isn't overly supportive of my doll collecting and so wouldn't sanction me getting a new doll to connect with

That's a shame your mum is so discouraging of your doll collection. Is it taking over your room/space issues, or does she just disapprove for other reasons? There's nothing wrong with being into collecting dolls. I knew a married woman in her thirties who collected dolls big-time. I collect cuddly toys!

She discourages it because they are reborn dolls- special artist made one of a kind life like babies. I love taking my babies out and buying things for them but she considers this an obsession and something she doesn't particularly like.

Basically I think I need something that I can take everywhere with me, something I can have which isn't too weird for an adult to carry and still be taken seriously, but there's nothing I can think of

Perhaps something like crochet or knitting? I recently got into crochet and bring a small project with me to work and work on it if I have free time / on a break. Or as it's becoming more acceptable, coloring? They have purse sized adult coloring books you could throw in your bag along with a few pens.