Does you hide you Asperger or you proud of it?

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pawelk1986
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30 Jun 2016, 5:23 am

I mean pride understood as not ashamed of the fact that you have autism?

I'm Polish and leave in Poland,
he forum is an international forum, but its founders are largely autistic people, from North America.

So i would rise on important issue, an affirmative action :mrgreen:

America, just like Europe are continents with great prejudice against racial, religious or ethnic, so minorities comes with affirmative actions,
why should they be ashamed of who they are?
Because some s**thead not like them so f**k them! :mrgreen:

I wonder why so many people with autism, and more broadly, people with various disabilities are ashamed of who they are!

Why not be proud of it?!

Even Bill Gates, it's that he has some type of autism is an open secret!
Why do not you admit it, yes, I am autistic, but I'm richer than any other f*****g NT on this earth :mrgreen:

Give a sense of pride and every other autistic and nerd on the Earth, and beyond :mrgreen:

I'm know for sure that many celebrities or at least some of them have autism, why they are so ashamed of it?



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30 Jun 2016, 5:27 am

I am not proud of it but I will talk about it to anyone and I want to be normal what ever that is because no one is ever normal



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30 Jun 2016, 9:00 am

pawelk1986 wrote:
I mean pride understood as not ashamed of the fact that you have autism?

I'm Polish and leave in Poland,
he forum is an international forum, but its founders are largely autistic people, from North America.

So i would rise on important issue, an affirmative action :mrgreen:

America, just like Europe are continents with great prejudice against racial, religious or ethnic, so minorities comes with affirmative actions,
why should they be ashamed of who they are?
Because some s**thead not like them so f**k them! :mrgreen:

I wonder why so many people with autism, and more broadly, people with various disabilities are ashamed of who they are!

Why not be proud of it?!

Even Bill Gates, it's that he has some type of autism is an open secret!
Why do not you admit it, yes, I am autistic, but I'm richer than any other f*****g NT on this earth :mrgreen:

Give a sense of pride and every other autistic and nerd on the Earth, and beyond :mrgreen:

I'm know for sure that many celebrities or at least some of them have autism, why they are so ashamed of it?


As far as Bill Gates is concerned it might be because he is ashamed, it could be because knows revealing it would cause a lot of people to yell and scream that he is not really autistic thus negatively effecting other "mild" autistics or maybe he self diagnosed and he does not want to negatively effect other people who have self diagnosed. Maybe because he is not Autistic, we only suspect he is Autistic. His autism may be a very low priority for him.

As far as I know nobody has directly asked him.


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30 Jun 2016, 9:06 am

I am no more "ashamed" of being an aspie than my sister is of being a diabetic.

And I am no more "proud" of being an aspie than my sister is of being a diabetic.

Do I "hide" it?

No. But I dont go around advertising it either.

Prolly talk about it with the same lack of frequency and with some number of folks as sis does about her diabetes.



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30 Jun 2016, 9:26 am

Neither really.
I'm autistic, that is a fact, comparable with "i'm a man".

I am proud of some things i managed to do/achieve despite the difficulties associated with autism, but generally, i just ignore the fact



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30 Jun 2016, 9:28 am

I'm not really proud of it, but I don't bother hiding it because people are going to notice I'm different anyway, so I might as well tell them why.



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30 Jun 2016, 9:31 am

Same here. I don't actively hide it....nor do I flaunt it.



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30 Jun 2016, 9:42 am

As far as I know nobody has directly asked him.



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30 Jun 2016, 9:43 am

I've told some friends and my bosses, but otherwise haven't made it publicly known. I'm not ashamed of it, but I've wondered if it would affect how people treat me at work. I've been considering going fully public with it since I don't really like hiding part of my identity. They've been having this thing at work about how it's okay to be public with a disability. A friend of mine went public with her dyslexia, but that doesn't seem nearly as pervasive a condition to me. She may see things differently, but still pretty much thinks like NTs apart from some executive functioning issues.


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30 Jun 2016, 11:41 am

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pawelk1986 wrote:
I mean pride understood as not ashamed of the fact that you have autism?

I'm Polish and leave in Poland,
he forum is an international forum, but its founders are largely autistic people, from North America.

So i would rise on important issue, an affirmative action :mrgreen:

America, just like Europe are continents with great prejudice against racial, religious or ethnic, so minorities comes with affirmative actions,
why should they be ashamed of who they are?
Because some s**thead not like them so f**k them! :mrgreen:

I wonder why so many people with autism, and more broadly, people with various disabilities are ashamed of who they are!

Why not be proud of it?!

Even Bill Gates, it's that he has some type of autism is an open secret!
Why do not you admit it, yes, I am autistic, but I'm richer than any other f*****g NT on this earth :mrgreen:

Give a sense of pride and every other autistic and nerd on the Earth, and beyond :mrgreen:

I'm know for sure that many celebrities or at least some of them have autism, why they are so ashamed of it?


As far as Bill Gates is concerned it might be because he is ashamed, it could be because knows revealing it would cause a lot of people to yell and scream that he is not really autistic thus negatively effecting other "mild" autistics or maybe he self diagnosed and he does not want to negatively effect other people who have self diagnosed. Maybe because he is not Autistic, we only suspect he is Autistic. His autism may be a very low priority for him.

As far as I know nobody has directly asked him.


I read that Leo Messi from FC Barcelona had Asperger :mrgreen:

I once talked with my friend which whom i once attend to support group for autistic people, we talked about sport, we watched video with one young proskater, that boy have very awkward facial expression, he remembered us one of our mutual friend, who is aspie too, who is obsessed about gaming and computing typical aspie past time :mrgreen:

We talked about this boy, in our opinion he is most certain Asperger affected, see you self :mrgreen:

In my opinion if that boy is aspie, had skateboarding so it's a sport, at least something better than IT technology or gaming like most of us! :D

But i think most who had ASD are embarrassed, due social stigma attached to it! :(

In my opinion, totally unnecessarily, after all, we are superior to NTs, in many ways :evil:


Soon I finish my studies in Library Science, I want to start another study, this time in Psychology, if I were Psychologist- I could help others aspies :)



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30 Jun 2016, 12:16 pm

It depends on the company I'm in. If I'm stuck among ableists or any other insensitive types of people, of course I'm likely to hide my autism. If I think I'm with supportive people who would be interested, I'd probably tell them. I've shared it with a number of people who haven't seemed to judge me for it, which I suppose is a good thing, but sadly that's as far as it's gone with most of them - the information seems to go in one ear and out of the other. Most people I've met don't seem to know what ASD is. It's a complicated subject so I don't entirely blame them. I wouldn't go so far as to say that I'm ashamed of my autism. It is what it is. But in the wrong company, it can feel like I'm somehow in the wrong, just as an atheist might feel isolated and intimidated in a group of fundamentalist religionists. It's very important to me to keep well away from people who would disregard or despise me for who I am, obviously. So that's what I try to do.



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30 Jun 2016, 1:12 pm

For me, it's just a fact that I'm Autistic. I don't tell everybody, but I have told my closest friends and others who I feel need to know. I hid my ASD more when I was in grade school because I was embarrassed to be myself. Now that I'm older, I'm not ashamed. I'm okay with who I am.


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30 Jun 2016, 1:41 pm

I've been ashamed of it since the day I was diagnosed with it, which was about 18 years ago. I think it's because it prevented me from being able to have many close friends, it has made me clingy and awkward, it screwed me up socially through my teenage years, I'm the only one in my family who has it, it doesn't make me superior or well-focused, I missed out on having a normal social life when I was a bit younger, I'm stuck in a dead-end job because I find work to pressurizing, repetitive and daunting, and most of all, murderers keep claiming that they have AS/Autism which just increases the stigma that's attached itself to autism.

So how can I possibly be proud of that?


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30 Jun 2016, 2:30 pm

greetings all!

i am not ashamed of who i am, nor am i ever going to justify myself, my person or spiritual being to anyone. i am perfect just the way i am! my personal mind issues do not make me who i am am. what i live with, is a human "condition".

i do not advertise my "condition", however if someone where to be talking about it or i felt safe... i would share. our society is not equipped to deal with those who do not fit into a box. i don't blame, i embrace them... it helps me through...

i believe our paths are all unique and personnel!

the best to all of us!

with peace,

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30 Jun 2016, 3:36 pm

I used to try to hide my Aspergers and try to appear neurotypical, but I can't say that this actually got me anywhere. I still was unable to make friends and form relationships like other people seem to do effortlessly. It's also very exhausting to act NT for long periods of time. Now, whenever I meet someone and get to know them (which is rare), I let them know that I have Aspergers. If they're an accepting person, they will likely understand and not think you're just plain weird or being rude to them. If they don't like it, then it's their problem, and they're probably not someone you want to be around anyway.

I just want to clear things up and point out that there is no evidence that Bill Gates has any form of autism. There was never any diagnosis published about him, and I personally don't think he has it. People speculate about him having Aspergers, but for him to get to the position where he was as CEO of one of the largest companies in the world, he had to have some social skills and be able to manipulate people.



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30 Jun 2016, 3:51 pm

Maybe I hide it a little, because I got the "Oh, so you are drawing the autism-card, right?"
If my difficulties become apparent, I tell about the aspect in question and maybe add, "I have aspergers".
Otherwise not.
I´m not proud - nor ashamed. It´s just me...the way I am.


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