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greetings all,

today i realized there is something that i do that that has to be an annoyance to others. so we were getting lunch ready, i announced that i would use bread for my hotdogs instead of buns so we could save them for the cookout tomorrow. my partner said... "well alright", what difference did me stating it make. was i looking for validation that my actions were ok, or do i just need to hear myself talk! no matter what i am about to do, i make sure that i tell someone. even as a child, when i had to go to the bathroom i would let my mom know that it was about to happen. she always told me "honey, you don't have to tell me, just go!"

does this sort of thing fall into the same category as following everyone from room to room?
anyone else know what i am saying?

with peace,

JanusOne

My oldest child - early teens - does both of those behaviors. With her, our acknowledging whatever action she just told us about seems to fill some sort of almost OCD-ish "this is what has to happen next" need, if that makes any sense?

Can you (or anyone else) explain them further please?

My niece does that, but she isn't on the spectrum. I don't know why, maybe wanting attention? She is attention-starved.

I do this sometimes...sometimes I FEEL like doing it but I stop myself from saying it. Other times it probably doesn't occur to me to tell anyone what I'm doing, when I probably should.

But I do the same thing when I'm by myself...I tell myself what I'm going to do rather than just doing it.

I feel like it's partly an executive functioning problem...if I don't SAY what I'm going to do then I may forget about it.

Also when it comes to telling other people...sometimes it's my way of checking whether I'm about to do something dumb or not. Like if I said I'm going to the mailbox and someone reminds me we don't have mail because it's Sunday or it's a holiday.

My daughter gives me a running commentary on everything she does. It makes me laugh sometimes and she also leaves notes all around the house on post its.

I've always done this. I never even thought much of it until right now. But I do. I was always stating my menial plans to my wife, like the order I'd be doing my chores, or what I was thinking of eating. Always very needless things to be said. And I also instruct myself and inanimate objects.

For me I think it's that I'm always looking for some sort of approval or validation from someone else because I'm always unsure of myself. Like I need constant reassurances that what I'm planning to do is ok or the "right" thing to do. Also, I'm way overly analytical, and verbalizing that sometimes feels necessary as well.

?

I thought this was what NTs did all the time,
or extroverts?
Making comments about the obvious.

So maybe it's just a part of being
just plain human?

?

Lots of question marks in my post,
can you tell I don't understand
humanity?

My AS son does this. To be fair, everything baby/toddler thing I read said to do that with small children to help them grow vocabularies.

...so I taught it to him...

It doesn't bother me.

It does bother some other people though.

We do try to teach him when it's appropriate to speak and when it isn't. Beyond that, as long as it's polite...it's fine with me.

There is nothing wrong with announcing that you be using bread instead of hot dog buns and why. Perhaps it's part of your thought process to speak it and hear it through your ears?

(I don't do that. ...and doing it for my babies was hard and annoying, but I kept persevering because I have always read that it is important. I need to do a similar thing for my job, but it's repetitive, so it makes it much easier.)