Remembering things in second person

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I wonder if NT people also do this but I doubt it, sometimes I remember something but I am simply not there, any quote I said appears in the mouth of the person I am addressing at the time with their facial expressions matching. I suppose I have a very weak sense of self I don't do this. Sometimes with imagining conversations with others, I image them telling them me what I am supposed to be saying. In fact I have hardly if no first person memory or played out conversations and force myself to think differently. This may contribute to some of my problems I don't know. But I would rather think in first person like anyone else and feel a strong sense of self.

Yeah it occured to me too..
It is almost as if I heard myself saying something, although I don't feel I'm doing so. It's not an unpleasant feeling, the thing is I suddently feel very lonelyand as you said selfless.

Many of my memories are not in the first person either. Sometimes I "see" myself doing the things I remember, but I'm remembering it as if I'm watching from the outside, in the third person.

One idea I've had about why this is (and this is not scientific, just my own speculations), is that because I have so much trouble processing things in real time, that makes it hard to remember the event as if I was really there. In my mind, I wasn't completely there until long after the event was over, because it took so long to finish processing and understanding what everyone said & did. My memories seem to come from afar, because my perceptions kind of come from afar too, in that they don't resolve themselves until after the thing I was perceiving is long over.

Not sure if I've explained that well enough, so let me know if I'm being too confusing.