My brother is NT.

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11 Jul 2016, 2:49 pm

He was evaluated for bipolar, Asperger's, cyclic depression, and anxiety, as far as I know, but only diagnosed with the latter two.

I am happy and sad. I am glad that I have some differentiation, but sad that I cannot share this with him, especially since no one in my family seems to have Asperger's, which makes me question my own identity. In addition, he can't be proud of depression and anxiety, I suppose, but it is good that he can get meds for it, if he wants.

Maybe on meds he will turn completely normal, and then I will be a lone weirdo.

(My brother is a socially awkward, glasses-wearing math nerd who everyone assumes is Autistic, I am a make-up wearing lover of comedy and religious philosophy, and less people can believe I am Autistic, though I have more and longer-running traits.)

Anyways, I just wanted to share this because I'm not sure what to feel, and like to verbalize things and explain them.

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11 Jul 2016, 9:15 pm

You're a pretty girl; I wouldn't worry about it.

Your brother doesn't sound really all that "NT"--unless you mean that he's not autistic.

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11 Jul 2016, 9:40 pm

CryingTears15 wrote:

Not sure what the issue is.

What do you mean by your "identity" (this thing that is being "undermined")?

Do you mean your "diagnositic label" of aspergers/autism? Dont see what the above has to do with that.

Most aspies dont have large numbers of other aspies in their families. I am the only diagosed aspie in my family. My sister is VERY NT.

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11 Jul 2016, 10:19 pm

I'm the only diagnosed aspie in the family so far.
I'm the ONLY one who ever got to a psychiatrist at all.

I have two cousins I suspected as undiagnosed (one potential male aspie, and one potential female with ADHD). Both from my dad's side of my family, and their respective moms' (my two aunts).
My grandpa, and my greatgrandpa, 2-3 patriarchal lines before me - that excludes my dad - were rather odd, but it's too late for me to speculate about that.

In the end, I'm not worried. They accept me as I'm. Hell, my NT sister is even more needy than I'm. :lol:

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11 Jul 2016, 11:07 pm

I'm also the only one in my entire extended family that has autism. It's not really a big deal. People in my family (the vast majority of whom are over 40) just accept it and go on with their lives.
I don't have any brothers or sisters, but I used to spend a lot of time with my younger cousin who shared an interest in video games and Pokemon with me, but in the past 2 years, he's become uber-NT, and we've drifted apart.

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11 Jul 2016, 11:18 pm

I am also the only autistic person in my family. Far as I know everyone in my household have no neurological or psychological problems. Whereas I have a boatload. I don't have a brother but I have a cousin who is my age and we live in the same house. Growing up alongside him has been beneficial and difficult. It's been great having him to help me and understand how I tick better than anyone. But also I have seen everything in his development and achievements that having autism ha robbed me of. It's hard not to feel envious and even resentful sometimes.

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12 Jul 2016, 12:17 pm

naturalplastic wrote:

CryingTears15 wrote:

That's what I meant, yes. A lot of Aspies have other Aspies in their family, so I wondered if it was normal to be the only one.

Maybe if it's a commonality to have Autistic relatives, my not having any would be a sign it's something else.

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12 Jul 2016, 12:19 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

You're a pretty girl; I wouldn't worry about it.

Your brother doesn't sound really all that "NT"--unless you mean that he's not autistic.

Yeah. Is there another name for non-Autistic?

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12 Jul 2016, 1:28 pm

CryingTears15 wrote:

naturalplastic wrote:

CryingTears15 wrote:

I doubt that it IS common to have multiple family members being aspie. Though some families have more than one kid on the AS spectrum, many families have just one ( see the several folks who posted above), and of course some families have none at all.

In all fairness I grew up in the Sixties decades before anyone outside of Austria had ever heard of aspergers. So no one in the family when I was a school kid would have been dxd with aspergers even if they had had it. Individuals of my parents' generation on both sides of the family had definite aspie traits. But I doubt that any had the combination of triats to be a full blown aspie ( but who knows,none of these people were ever tested). But no one besides me of my generation (sister, cousins), or their kids seem to have it as far as I know.

Some folks prefer "allistic" to "NT". But that has the same ambiguity. It can mean just "not autistic( but might be bipolar, or Adhd, or whatever) ", or it can mean thoroughly normal in "wiring".

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12 Jul 2016, 1:29 pm

CryingTears15 wrote:

Yeah. Is there another name for non-Autistic?

I like to use "allistic" although just saying "non-autistic" works too.

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12 Jul 2016, 3:21 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

You're a pretty girl; I wouldn't worry about it.

Your brother doesn't sound really all that "NT"--unless you mean that he's not autistic.

Ahem, Kraftie. I think you meant to say that CryingTears has a lot going for her and she shouldn't feel that being different is bad. I'm sure you didn't mean to say that pretty girls don't have problems.

CryingTears15- It would have been nice to have someone else in your camp, I wouldn't feel bad about wishing your brother had also been on the spectrum. It's good to be happy for him too, like you said. It's probably also a mixed blessing and curse to not look autistic. People don't always take other people's autism traits and sensitivities seriously if they aren't "obviously" autistic.

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13 Jul 2016, 11:20 pm

Of course pretty people have problems like anybody else.

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