Wrongplanet seems like a more bigger Popularity Contest

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Okay, I've been on here for years (since 2005 but changed usernames) and have not found not one and I mean one person that thinks like me nor not that many people I get along with. I joined WP to find and make friends, meet people and socialize. In return, I found none of my posts most of the time NEVER get looked at and the LGBTQA forum always seems to be empty, so most of the time it feels like I'm talking to myself. I thought this was supposed to be an Autism- friendly space! Most of what I see here is worse judging than NTs. It angers me. How are we supposed to be a joined community when most of the community does not get along? What are the NTs supposed to think of us when we are bad mouthing each other? There seems to be more drama in the Autism community than the NT world will ever had. Quite frankly I'M SICK OF IT! Why can't we be more united and stop beating up and fighting each other? Yes, I said it! I saw no topic about this but I wanted to address this. I'm tired of people not really responding to me. I try to be social but the honest truth I'm not social at all I'm a super introvert and it's hard to adjust nor talk to people because even my ex husband Daniel says that it seems like I've created my own unique language that mirrors English since languages have always been hard for me but music and writing was more my language. I'm not so good at writing anymore and in my eyes not good enough in music but at least it's something I'm somewhat good at. *End of Rant* By the way, where is the outreach for the non verbal/not as social autistics on here? That bugs me also..Sorry if this makes no sense, my brain thinks everything out of order and I try to sift through the chaos to give you complete sentences but it doesn't work so this is the best I could come up with.

Maybe I'll finally be able to post this if I break it up.

Certain parts of the forum are less active than others, the 'safe space' forums at the bottom for women and LGBT kind of discourage outsiders which I tend to respect most of time as those topics do not interest me more times than not. Is that where most of your posts are?

Who is winning if this is a popularity contest?

no, not exactly that, there's more then one with an 'interest'
agenda's, medical& political talking points
they tend to talk with each other more and hardly interact with others, the 'normal' users
research found that on medical sites up to 80% of responses come from hired responders

Hello aspiebeauty, I can't ever remember seeing any of your posts before.

Maybe Wrong Planet is just not enough to fulfil your need for a social and emotional vehicle? Online forums don't seem to foster much contact of either. Maybe this is something that is better sought in "real life" groups? Where you can feel more communicative / social / emotional connection, in person?
It may be a case of people coming at this kind of forum with different motivations and approaches. I know I utilise this, and most other things, for informational purposes. I like ideas, and so long as there are ideas being discussed and I can pose questions to stimulate more ideas, I'm interested. It's not really on my agenda to make friends and socialise (not to say I'm against the idea ) it's to read and consider and interact only on ideas. Therefore I suppose I don't really mind if anyone likes me or if I'm "popular." Reading about and responding to other ideas doesn't require everyone to get along, be a community, or agree. You seem to be disappointed in that because you were after something different that isn't being met.
Honestly, I find online forums good for that because I can avoid people's emotional interplay.
I'm with you on the hating drama though. Discussion is good, argument and flame war isn't. And though that does unfortunately come up on here at times it's not as if it's a constant brawl.
Many autistic people like specificity, so maybe try making a topic just for socialising / making friends in that sub forum? Also, there has been a bit of movement in the LGBT forum, you can just join in !

I'm sorry you feel that way



As for people not talking to each other, perhaps it has to do with how or what they post. Some people can't connect with others or maybe do not enjoy the topic the other is writing about. I haven't been on here long but I've noticed there are a ton of dedicated areas for specific interests, maybe posting in there? Have you ever thought about joining another social media sight like Tumblr or something else to talk and connect to people.

As for a community, it's just like any other community. You mentioned LGBTQA, I myself am a lesbian, but I do not agree with everything the LGBTQA community or other lesbians do or the views they hold. It's just human nature that we can not all agree on everything. It is what it is. And I feel like NTs wouldn't be surprised. They have the same problems.

If you are having issues with writing, I would suggest using Dragon Software as it's a dictation program that lets you talk and then types it for you. Or you could always find an Ipad or other tablet and load it with a communication program to help with talking/ connecting with the world.

Honestly, I'm trying to figure out what exactly you are asking/ trying to post about with the last part. I think a lot of us are not as social as we may appear. Yes, we're active on here but for me, I only go out with maybe one or two friends once or twice a month. If I go out, it's with family and we often go to the 5 dollar movies or to a store or something. I have an active online social life but not in real life... I'd rather stay home reading, writing, crafting, or playing video games.

It is what it is.

I'm sorry I was not aware of the OP before now. any venue/forum with more than 3 people in it has the potential to become a mere popularity contest. rotten human nature, IMHO.

There's a science behind communication, if people aren't interested in what you are talking about they won't respond. I have a whole lifetime of this as most people aren't interested in what I am talking about, understanding the scientific principle behind this however gives me hope for the future. Perhaps there are not enough LGBT community people on this forum to satisfy you.

I've seen people responding to you.

I believe I've responded to you a few times.

I responded indirectly to you when you mentioned that you were Hispanic and genderfluid. Another poster wanted to know what "genderfluid" meant. I gave my answer, and mentioned that Hispanics seem to gender-bend quite a bit, and are rather more social than some other ethnic groups. Autism seems to be somewhat rare amongst this population.

First of all, I don't see Wrong Planet as a united community at all. To me, an internet forum is just a website where you can ask questions, get answers, respond to others' questions, and discuss things. Perhaps the fact that most of us have some form of autism unites us, but it's really just a bunch of anonymous people posting on a forum. Where's the so-called popularity contest? Nobody seems to be striving to get the most friends or having the most posts like what happens on Facebook. I just use this as a forum, and don't give a rat's ass about whether I'm popular.

Sorry, let me clarify... I just ranted because I feel like everybody usually on Wrongplanet talks about great discussions but I never understand nor know how to put my two cents in. Sometimes I do and people don't seem to like the way I think. They get annoyed with me and just ignore me or don't talk to me. I feel this also happens in real life with NTs and autistic, nobody seems to get me nor understand my communication style. By the way, whoever said something about Dragon Speak. I could use that all I want but it will never sort the chaos in my brain. I've used it before it just does not work. I know I have poor communication skills, I'm doing everything to help that but I'm failing.. miserably. It seems like I need something other than NTs telling me "go socialize and mingle". That's backwards to me that's like telling a child to go swim but didn't teach them the right way how to swim and they end up drowning. If this is a analogy, then I'm failing/drowning in poor social skills. I try my hardest to talk but I talk and it seems I never say anything important to anyone. I feel like sometimes I'm not that important nor useful to anyone, not even me. I tend to talk about the same things some people seem boring. Eminem, music, black and pink colors, hello kitty, anime and video games. I get bored with my own self but I'm not really good at ice breakers, eye contact, starting conversations and ending them along with keeping any type of conversation going; thus I have no true friends in real life (which sucks).