An interesting occurrence about personality types

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don't know if anyone saw an earlier post of mine BUT my parents arn't the most observant types so i thought they didn't notice my traits.....well it turns out im wrong, they did BUT they refused to see it as aspergers and called it "personality type" so apparently im an "ISFJ" personality type, apparently, when i was little and growing up, my parents determined that this is my personality type (and later testing shows that it actually is....) so whenever i did something that is a red flag for aspergers, they blamed it on my personality type and carried on. for example I don't like surprises, and i don't like change, they go "its just an ISFJ thing" and apparently adapted to do things so as not to upset me because of the personality type, and did not think at all that it would be aspergers (even though it is actually that).

anyone else have a similar experience? it is strange, my parents got used to everything i do so think its normal so never noticed anything out of the ordinary because that was just me and my personality.

Had a similar experience in my male-dominated schools and workplaces during the seventies and eighties. Because the male-female ratio of my college, law school and first job in a big-city law firm was generally around ten to one, and all the institutions were firmly "men's clubs," most of my oddness was attributed to my being female.

Kind of a "two-edged sword."

I knew somebody once who thought my behaviour could be explained by my astrological sign - Sagittarius. Looking at it now, there are a few things that fit me quite well, but overall it was a bit of a shoehorn job. It's common for people to force a theory to fit the facts, especially if it's the only theory they have, or if they're used to using that theory and don't want the inconvenience or embarrassment of learning about another one.

My sister has classic autism. Growing up she was the weird one and I was the 'normal' one.
We had no one to compare it to so everything I did/said was normal.

We only found out I had Aspergers when I was 30.

For a lot of my childhood my family didn't have a TV (I grew up recently enough for that to be pretty unusual).

I think a lot of my teachers and friends thought I was socially odd because of this, the theory being that I'd missed out on learning about social behaviour from TV. Perhaps there is something in this theory, but I no longer think its the whole picture.

I also have had the same experience as yourkiddingme3; being in male-dominated environments people assume a lot of different behaviour is because you're a woman. E.g. I often have to ask a lot of questions to understand whats going on when someones speaking, and people have just assumed thats a female thing.