I don't trust my support worker

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I had 2 support workers. The first one I got on well with but since she doesn't work in the summer I got a new support worker. I've had the new one for a couple months but I don't like her and I feel nervous but I don't know why. I have seen ID and I know she is a legit support worker but I still feel the same.

Maybe you should try making a list of her attributes and see if you can narrow down what it is. People on the spectrum often have an uncanny sense about other people, but in a unique way. So it can be hard to express.

Should I say I want to see a different person? I'm allowed to do that but I didn't want to but it's not helpful to me because I can't follow advice of someone I distrust.

I don't know what the rules are on support workers. Someone else could probably give a better answer. If it were me, I would try to narrow down a reason to give and then yes, try to get a different worker. If you just can't figure it out, I would tell whoever is in charge that you have a general feeling of distrust with this particular worker and you would like to switch, no hard feelings. I always try to put the blame on myself to make things work more smoothly. Such as, "I think something is setting me off with this particular worker, making trust-building difficult...perhaps switching to someone else would help me..." Something like that.

Alright. Cheers

I've been a support worker. Sometimes, there is a bad fit between worker and consumer. Its nothing personal. I tried not to take it like something was wrong about me, the support worker. Sometimes you just don't click with a person.

I think you should absolutely take your instincts seriously. I think that's really important. Making a list of things you've noticed, or feelings you've had is a great idea. I would journal about the issue until I got more clear on the subject because journaling helps me sort my thoughts.

Taking your instincts seriously doesn't always mean you have to fire the new support worker. It might mean that you just need to talk to them, or to change something about how they work with you. Or, you might decide that its not worth it and you would just like to try with someone new.

No matter what you decide, you need to let your case manager know now that you are having these thoughts. Your case manager might have some ideas about how to work it out. But if you decide to let the new support worker go, the case manager needs a warning so that he or she can start looking for someone new.

I've developed my method of personal writing. And I under-write, meaning 0, 1, or 2 sentences. And that it's it, that's plenty for one writing session.

For example ;

"I wish she would have _________ "

And while I'm doing this, I might be leafing through a book on art or science to give myself permission to relax.

I think something like this is fine, too.

I don't think you need to write. Meaning, it's one more good option, rather than any kind of requirement.

The fact that you've had her a couple of months. That's plenty of time. You gave her more of a enough of a chance. It just didn't work out.