The most cliched hackneyed phrase you can say to someone.

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"Everyone has problems" has got to be worst advice a person can receive from someone. Every time I start talking to my wife about the problems related to my autism she comes out with the trite phrase "Everyone has problems" however she's in good company people have been saying this to me my whole life.

My issue with this is that people have specific problems, for me I have difficulties engaging people in conversation now that might seem like a trivial problem, but its very harmful to a person if people don't enjoy being around them. Maybe people should stop saying everyone has problems and start looking at the actual problem and start thinking of the actual solutions for the problem.

I agree. What an unhelpful little phrase.

Here's another one: it could be worse. I know that some find this one helpful. Not me though.

^ Both of those phrases are trite and meaningless. I think they're basically just a way of making someone feel better while simultaneously dismissing what it is they're going through.

One of the biggest problems with humanity is that people generally don't give a flying f**k about other people's problems; and I should know as I'm a part of this problem. Unless I really really care about someone, I have a hard time giving a crap about their issues or what they are going through. I've been told that I'm a caring person, but the truth is, I often feel that I am not. Most of the time when I hear about other people's problems I'm too busy dwelling over things that are bothering me specifically.

It's the polite way to tell you to stop pestering them with your problems, which they don't give a crap about. You're only going to piss them off if you try to force them to care—noöne likes being told what to care about.

That's true most people don't care about other people's problems. But I think I do, I am always asking questions bugging them I probably expect other's to respond in kind but they don't. People are just looking for an opportunity to go into a spiel about whatever. The issue is what interests people what arouses their curiosity what is it, it seems normal neurotypical people understand this instinctually but I don't and feel that I need to apologize for attempting conversation with other people.

The "it gets better" campaign slogan.

"Person X can do/has done it."

This is implying that I can do it. This is implying that I am not trying (hard enough) to do it.

This statement is usually made with little regard to whether or not person X and I share the same abilities/disabilities related to the task. This statement is also made with no regard to how much person X or I struggle before finally accomplishing/failing to accomplish the task, and whether it's really worth that.

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"I am silently correcting your grammar."

You can do anything you want to.

I’d like to see someone jumping three metres off the ground, powered only by their own legs and without any kind of equipment, by virtue of wanting to hard enough.

So many to choose from ... here's my Top Ten:

10. "Have a nice day!"

9. "Cheer up!"

8. "Calm down!"

7. "It's the thought that counts!"

6. "I'll pray for you!"

5. "I did it for you!"

4. "It's not you; it's me!"

3. "I've done nothing wrong!" / "It's not my fault!" (a tie)

2. "My way or the highway!"

1. "You have been pre-approved!"

I vote for "That's just a cliché!"

I have to admit, I've used the phrase, "It can be worse" a few times. I absolutely, 100% don't mean to be dismissive at all. It just so happens I have friends who whine about this, and whine about that, and whine about this, and whine about that, whine, whine, whine. They're never happy; they're never satisfied. After a while, they really do force my hand into saying something like, "Well, at least ISIS is not taking off your head and throwing the pictures on the internet." I guess maybe I have to do more work on my patience.

My most hated phrase is, "Are you okay?" There is NO WAY that anyone who asked me that could stop and take the time to make sure I'm okay, so I always answer "yes" even though I'm a hair's breath from bursting into flames.