Does this sound like aspergers?

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Hi everyone, I've recently broken up with my girlfriend, she is now ignoring me, and won't respond to my messages. Throughout most of our relationship I sensed something wasn't quite right with her. Rather than type out a long drawn out thread, I'm putting the following things that makes me think she COULD have Asperger's, or COULD be narcissism. I would appreciate your thoughts please.

Very intelligent, retains information very well.

When I went to visit her, she once said in the early stages of our relationship "I might not talk to you when you are back home." Which I found a strange thing to say.

Regarding expressing words of affection, she said ("You will have difficulty with me then")

She doesn't like been asked the question "what are you doing today?"

Secretive. I.e.. She wouldn't tell me why she hides her online status on a particular social network and Skype.

Told me "I find it hard to express my feelings"

Told me "I know I can be rude and blunt"

Moody

Asked me "Are you sure you want to be with this difficult girl?"

She gets very irritable.

Told me "I don't know how to love, I don't even know what love is"

She once played a game with friends when you all take it in turns to say things about yourself, she thought it was strange. She said that she is very private.

Told me she doesn't miss people.

Her brother told me that during the night her mum was worried I might be cold in bed, this was once, when I was staying over, and that my ex got offended over this. (I'm not sure why, but maybe it was because I was getting attention and she wasn't)

She was teaching me another language but she was harsh/disrespectful and made fun of me during these lessons, even though I was paying her to teach me.

When once I was concerned about another man that I knew liked her she said "would you fight for me?" Like she was making a joke out of it.

Her brother said she "is very sensitive"

Once I noticed an issue had arisen and I asked her brother what was up with her, he replied " (her name) thinks she is the best"

She likes to have photo shoots done of her and post these photos of herself on her social networking sites.

She said "by the time I'm 30 I want to be very beautiful"

She once said "you should be pleased other men find your girlfriend attractive" how this was meant I don't know.

Once said "why do you keep reminding me I'm nothing"
I replied "when have I ever said you are nothing" she replied "many times" I had never said she was nothing.

Intolerant.

Says she hates questions.

Says she doesn't like small talk.

Her feelings for me seemed strong at first then faded. She told me this has happened to her in other relationships.

She would find it tiring if I pursued an issue with her.

She gets offended easily.

Her brother told me she has very high expectations.

Sometimes I would ask her a normal type of question, could be about anything, and it seemed like it was an effort to answer it.

She would often find things strange that were quite normal.

Doesn't seem to easily forgive.

The answer: A big maybe. Perhaps. It's possible.

Sorry for being so glib. But I don't really see "autism." I see someone who may have some autistic features, but is not diagnosable with autism.

Obviously, I'm not an expert on this--I'd have to observe her in person over a number of days.

Read up on Broad Autism Phenotype; I think that's more likely.

She could just be someone who is difficult and prickly and hard to get along with--but not autistic.

I hope you find somebody less difficult next time.

The only things on that list that might point to core aspergers traits is having trouble expressing emotion/does not know how to love which seem realted and rudeness. But even those are often caused by something else after all Donald Trump is rude and blunt and Aspergers is the last thing that comes to mind about Trump. All "strangeness" in people is not Autism.

Some of other things on the list MIGHT be how she presents core Autistic traits. In my amateur opinion there is not nearly enough information to rule it out but with the information presented I doubt it.

short answer, no it doesn't. any diagnosis really requires a specific set of criteria be evaluated and filled or ruled out, and a collection of anecdotal experiences doesn't qualify like you've listed here. one can't be diagnosed this way.

Thanks for the replies, there is something else, she would seem kind of stiff and lack that friendliness at times, for instance, staying at her family's apartment, if I was saying goodnight to her, for example "Goodnight darling" in a nice friendly way, she would report with "ok, goodnight" in this kind of stiff, why are we doing this sort of manner. (Kinda difficult to explain)