feeling unsafe and tense....all the time?

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like it seems that only kirby games make me feel safe and okay. but its like most of the time i dont feel very safe like i feel like somethings going to get me or going to happen and so never relax....

Earthbound games make me feel safer. I thought it was strange that you said that about Kirby, because I never knew that anyone else felt that way about games other than me. There's just something about Earthbound that draws me in and shuts out the rest of the world. It's like I'm replacing the real world with Earthbound or perhaps that is my perception of the real world.

I sometimes have to read books or articles or research a topic for several hours (or listen to an audiobook) in order to feel safer / less tense / more able to deal with other things in life. It's like I have to do it in order to feel ok, you know?

I used to feel anxious and tense all the time, I think as a result of being mugged a couple of times and a victim of violence. I wasn't severely injured but my sense of safety was shot.

Wish I could say just what makes me not feel that now, but I do identify a happy marriage as a steadying factor. I know whatever happens to me, my spouse is there for me. But I still get nervous parking my car in any questionable parking lot; since I am old and visibly disabled, I think I am a sitting duck for a purse snatcher or just a hostile action.

I feel that way, too. It's what you get for not being stronger and skilled at self-defense, especially if you're always alone. The world wasn't really made for beings like me and the very fact that we're still alive is an aberration of nature. I haven't been mugged yet, and this only makes me worry about how sheltered I've always been and how spoiled I am, always fleeing from the certain and painful death I'd meet if the law of the jungle in its full glory put me in my place.

I have Agoraphobia and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Nuff said.

I have a constant threat response going on because of misophonia. If there is a lot of external sound I don't know the source of (or even if I do, if the source is other people) there will be involuntary threat response.
Decrease sound, especially sound made by unpredictable people in close proximity, and the threat response also decreases. Just an idea.

I have GAD too. Being tense all the time is something I am learning to cope with. I constantly regulate my breathing and relax my muscles and meds help.