Does anybody here have a problem with empathy?

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I have a serious problem with empathy, like at funerals or wakes, everybody around is crying, and balling their eyes out and they look at me and I'm just sitting there with just a straight face or a smile not because im happy just because i just might be thinking about something funny I did today. Or like if I watch somebody fall, and everybody is like omgosh are you okay, I'm just standing there like uhhh, then I walk away like nothing happens. People call me mean all the time, and say I have a cold heart, which is not true at all, but does anybody else have a problem with empathy?

I do. But sometimes I feel like it goes away. Or I can have empathy but only in certain situations.

sometimes but I'm 99% of the tme a deeply caring person

I'm very empathetic but I have had many people tell me I am: cold, unemotional, uncaring, never smile, never laugh...

I'm terrible with it.

I smile at stupid times because I'm thinking of something funny, I don't get upset about things other people would. My ex Boyfriend told me to "Get help and lean compassion"

When tbh he was just a clingy annoying twit.

I'm extremely good with empathy when it comes to movie or TV characters. But when it comes to actual live people, forget it.

Sometimes. Sometimes I don't feel the emotion but I want to help people because I know it's right. I think people who are uncaring are the ones that notice someone needs help and then try to make it worse for them.

That's what I find.

I'm an empathic mess.

WAY too empathic. Massive overcompensation.

I have a huge problem with empathy, so much that I'm almost INCAPABLE of it. I feel zero remorse when inflicting pain on someone or when someone/something dies. I'm often called sadistic, but I wouldn't go that far. There's a differance between not caring and taking delight in harming a person or thing.

I have a huge problem with empathy, so much that I'm almost INCAPABLE of it. I feel zero remorse when inflicting pain on someone or when someone/something dies. I'm often called sadistic, but I wouldn't go that far. There's a differance between not caring and taking delight in harming a person or thing (though as a kid I liked to hurt people to observe their reaction).

I generally wind up being the person people come to when they have a problem, even if it's to vent. Maybe it's simply because I don't really react to it. I feel bad sometimes, but moreso because I don't feel anything. I'm great at giving advice, but only because I look back on my life as if it happened in chapters. I won't talk about some of the stuff usually only because it's horrible, lol... but when I do talk about it, people tell me it's almost creepy sometimes-things you'd think would break me down I'm completely numb to. It's not that I've blocked it, it's not that I haven't accepted it, it's just simply that it was just a chapter of my life, it's not my entire life so why dwell on it. So when people come to me with problems, I can relate and I can say I feel for you, only because I remember how it felt while it was going on.

Other times I can see someone having a big struggle and feel every bit of it-but pretty much only if they are feeling extremely alone, because I relate to that a lot of the time, lol. I still know it doesn't effect me as it does other people though-they cry and whatnot, I just sit there like "wow, this really sucks".

I understand you totally, I don't feel any kind of remorse with people especially like if i hit them to play around and i actually hurt them, their be all upset and I'll just be sitting there like whats going on, and as a child I would do the same things as you.. How do you deal with it? Is there any kind of technique you use to help it, or correct it at times?

There is no way to help it, that's how your brain is programmed. Besides, why would you want the burden of having to feel remorse or guilt everytime a family member dies or you accidently hurt someone? Life's unfair, people get hurt.. the lucky ones are those who don't have to care.

Yup... my problem is that I have too much.

When I tutor, I'll be talking to a student about their difficulties in a class, and I'll be tearing up.

At the funeral for my sister-in-law's father, I was sitting there just bawling, even though I'd never met the guy (well, maybe once, 6 years earlier). But I was just crying because everybody else was.

Of course, when it comes to my own emotions, I'm clueless. But whenever anybody else is upset, I'll just bust out crying.

same... also good with animals, though.