When I saw the thread title I thought of how people assume I can understand what they are saying, when I can't...when they are talking in a low voice or mumbling, or not enunciating clearly, or there is a lot of background noise or a loud tv drowning them out, or they are standing beside a fan or machine that is running loudly or whatever. I keep telling them I can't hear them and they usually won't even do anything to change it, they just keep talking the same way.
It comes across to me as some kind of childish self-centeredness that makes them think because they can hear themselves, everyone else can too. I think it's basically the same principle when it comes to them being self-conscious.
The bigger question to me is not, why do they think people can hear them, but do they care so much when it doesn't really matter if anyone hears or not, and care so little when it would be more important to be understood clearly?
BirdInFlight wrote:
As an adult I finally completed a journey from too quiet to how to "be loud" if I felt like it, and be funny and express myself ----- and I'm getting SHUSHED!
So I do feel you on this. It's horrible to be shut up by someone especially when it's you just being cute and funny and not even actually loud or embarrassing.
Yeah...I would not like to be "shushed" either! Reminds me of this song
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uejh-bHa4ToMy mother is the one who tends to do that with me, and she can get wound up over "what would people think" if you do this or that...as if she has some super heightened sense of what people think, lol, well most of the time I don't think she really has any idea what people actually think. But it can make me a nervous wreck to be around her when she gets like that.
But I think sometimes other people might feel embarrassed around me sometimes though because I just don't have the same embarrassment filters they have. I will say things they don't expect, or make jokes or smart-assed remarks where they are halfway trying to shush me and at the same time they are breaking down laughing too. But sometimes I just make people mad.
And I guess I am hard for people to figure out because I do tend to be a very quiet person and I think they are surprised to find out that I'm not quiet and polite all the time. I am much more of a wild card or a loose cannon. And I can randomly get the giggles and also start snorting when I laugh.