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Is there any others here who are diagnosed with Aspergers but don't really have it?

I feel I have lived under a lie for nine years. I was fifteen when my mother told me I don't truly have it but it was the closest the doctor can get for me for a diagnosis. So I kept that secret in me thinking if other aspies knew the truth, they wouldn't listen to me thinking "What do you know, you're just half NT with aspie traits" when I be giving advice about life and tell me I don't belong in their community or group. So I felt I don't fit in anywhere. I don't fit in with normal people and aspies and thought I wished there were others out there like me in the same position. I keep telling myself does it matter what label I have, I'm me. But it's in my medical files and history. it's there for any doctor to see when they look me up when I become their new patient. I can say I have it and it won't be a lie and I can say I don’t have it and it also won't be a lie.

Even though I was diagnosed with AS, I really don't feel like I have it. I display hardly any of the symptoms and I can hardly relate to a lot of the talk here. Plus when I was diagnosed, that was the worst point in my short life. Anyway, I'm getting re-diagnosed in November so we'll just have to wait and see what happens then.

what about pdd-nos (pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified)? doesnt it just mean you have many autistic (aspie-ish) traits but not enough to "qualify" for a classic diagnosis. have you ever thought of being re-evaluated, that is if the label means something to you.

Always remembe You are not a diagnosed type or label.
You are You!
Everybody is unique.
You are unique.


These things enable some help but the person who has to learn the strategies and skills necessary for you to cope with life is you.

I was diagnosed with AS, but I am borderline AS/NT.

Tim

Likedcalico and Lola:
I'm curious.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you both still in your teens?

My question is:
Do you think it's possible that your parents getting you psychiatric help or therapy or special ed or whatever resources that they got for you because of your diagnosis, enabled you to function better? Or possibly that their understanding of any issues you had at the time also may have helped you get better?

There aren't two seperate spectrums (one Autistic Spectrum and one for more typical people).

There is one spectrum and everybody is on it somewhere.

There are many people who fall into that hazy area between typicality and profound aspergers.

In some ways that makes things easier because for brief periods you can (if you try hard) fit in to typical situations.

In other ways it is more difficulty because not many people can see the difficulties you may be having.

Either way it is important to recognise what makes you the person you are.

I was diagnosed with it last year, and everything about me and the way I've acted since I was a little boy screams that it was the correct diagnosis.

A lot of people here appear to be normal, I feel rather more strange here

You shouldn't feel bad. I might not be AS either, I just *think* I am because it explains so much about me (and my family too). There are a few other disorders I fit the criteria for, namely Depersonalization Disorder and Schizotypal. WP includes people who aren't sure if they have it or not, and according to the front page also welcomes ADHD people whether autistic or not. So don't worry about it. Just do what you think helps you.

Sometimes I don't think I'm AS or even ASD. I'm not NT though that is for certain. I just think I sit on my own plane. Nobody is going to base their thesis on one guy. Especially not if I don't have interesting external features. So many doctor have just been a pain, I'm lucky to have go this far.

I am still told by my boyfriend that I am a hypochondriac...regarding AS...I don't have a diagnosis..nor do I claim to...I just strongly relate to AS....he thinks all my symptoms are based on "low self esteem"
Despite the fact that I have had these strong social and developmental issues (many of them classic AS-ish) ever since I was little.

I am self-diagnosed and probably fall in the middle between NT and AS. My testing scores seem to indicate this. I do have some of the traits, notably unusual interests. I am probably unusual in some ways. Many people have had far more difficulties than I have. I would consider the two years of middle school, where I was bullied, the worst of my life. Things got much better for me when I switched school enviornments. While I wasn't a fantastic success socially in college or university, I did generall make good grades. I am an example that life does get better. I haven't accomplished anything on an epic scale comparable to Roger Bannister, but I have done well.

I am AS and I don't fit every little trait. I think over the years when I was not diagnosed I learned to cope and play normal (with a touch of weird) for various situations. Its exhausting though. I was popular in school, lots of dates, percieved as VERY outgoing and I was often referred to as "eccentric" but not crazy etc . . . it was all an act though and its harder to pull it off as I get older. Especially since I still feel 17, sometimes 12 and its increasingly more obvious that I can't relate to people my age. This makes my AS more noticable. I felt most NT when I was 17 cause that was my internal age but after that age group passed I felt increasingly odd in comparison to my peers.

I was lucky though, I think. I was raised by an AS father that gave me a lot of confidence cause he brought me up believing we were more gifted and that our unique ways were a benefit. He made it ok for me to scoff at society and not play by the rules.

There are varying degrees of everything. Us Aspies can relate but it doesn't mean we're all exactly alike. Its the relating and understanding part that is important.