wut does uncomfortable/ embarrassing mean

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what
do
u think it means to be that

bc people find stimming embarrassing or dont feel comfortable

Usually it's a reaction to something out of the ordinary, a violation of social norms. People in tune to norms of society can be made physically uncomfortable by behavior they consider abnormal - that's how strong social forces can be.

People may feel sympathetic embarrassment as a result of this, they will be "embarrassed for you", feeling the embarrassment they would feel if they were "caught" doing what you were doing.

Most people can't help feeling this way, so try not to think too badly of them.

My advice is if someone confronts you about your stimming and says it makes them uncomfortable is to say "I'm sorry" (it let's them know that you're not trying to upset them) and then offer a brief explanation, something like "I have autism and this helps me stay calm when I'm nervous".

If possible, it might be helpful to to try switching to a more covert method of stimming (think low noise and something handheld) or resisting for a while.