how hard are relationships NT vs autism

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i wanna get married someday
anyone on hear married
to NT

My Imaginary Friend is married to one. I'll ask him about it. He said it is like being in a relationship that feels like it is going to fall apart yet it doesn't.

I think the possibility of marriage depends on the severity of the autism.

I don't think it takes very much to never be able to have a relationship, I would consider myself moderately autistic with days dipping in the slightly low functioning area. I would say it is impossible for me to marry and I think anyone who says its possible doesn't have some of the more severe symptoms. Communication is key for relationships so I think very few people on the spectrum marry and I think even more get a divorce. I would not risk the imminent social failure that would come from such an accomplishment. You will have a much better life alone.

It's a rather common occurrence here on WP.

I think that really depends on you as an individual. For a long time, I was not capable of being good to someone in a relationship. But I'm in a really good place now. And I took some classes and did a lot of reading and a fair amount of dating. And I think I really am ready to be in a long term relationship. But faced with that reality, I'm not entirely sure I want it anymore. I think the demands of being in a relationship would be a lot of work. But it is possible.

There are plenty of people here married to a NT. But why limit yourself to NT people? If you date an autistic person, you might find that you two understand each other better. Its just a thought.

I think that is just pure fantasy.

No way could a man ever possibly understand a woman *quickly runs and hides*

Autistic people date other autistic people on WP, too.

I'm engaged to an NT man. We understand each other. The only thing that is getting in the way is finding a new job so that I can move in with him and get married.

I can imagine that for some on the spectrum the day of a wedding would be nightmarish - big social occaision , centre of attention and a huge change in your life ( although it's only signing a piece of paper )

Yah. That is a fantasy. I've never dated another person on the spectrum. Well, once I had a brief thing with a woman I swore could be ASD, but she was labeled bipolar instead. We did understand each other better, but the relationship didn't last. I still think it could be a good match if you met the right asperigian.

Yeah I agree. I don't think I've dated another person on the spectrum. My current GF of 15 years is almost the polar opposite of me and we don't quite know how we've stayed together although it has recently come to light that we both might be on the spectrum.

I've had crushes on Spectrum-type people---but they weren't interested.

Daria, a cartoon character, is somebody with whom I can very easily have a crush on. I find her to have some Spectrum characteristics.