maru99 wrote:
Hi, I am a single mum of 5 years old son with HFA. Some professionals hinted that he is gifted so I started researching on it. But I ended up with finding myself possibly gifted or not neurotypical.
I believe you are the smartest people in the word (Many of you are gifted) and I would like to seek some advises from you in the followings.
1. I hate routines and I never studied. Routines are something that I want to break. This inability to adhere to schedule or any tasks affect my academic skills and other life skills greatly. I would like to go to University and complete degree. But in order to achieve this, I must stop doing university studying in the last minutes.
How can I retain/create will power and stick to routine/schedule to succeed academically?
2. I see many things in a flash. Those are very often explaining relations and concepts, predictions. (pattern thinking). I also pick up many things such as people's emotions, happenings in the world, other families problems (difficulties in rising kids with ASD), so on. I don't have sensory problems. End of each day, I get too exhausted and too tired to do little things. I just manage to live in functional way but this mental fatigue is holding me back from reaching my potential.
How can I deal this kind of oversensitiveness every day?
3. I accumulate junks(junk means thoughts, information) in my head every each day. There are good junks and bad junks. I really need to have outlet of my creative thoughts/other thoughts/infomation. NT people talk to each other or talk to family members about it. But I prefer not to talk to anyone because no one understand what I talk about.
How Can I proactively seek outlet of my creative thinking, insights? What is your personal experience?
I have been trying to simulate NT (so called normal people) for decades so that I can be one day like Normal people and having a kind of happy life. But I now believe I am not NT. I cannot solve my "problems" by copying NT people. I need to deal with myself in my own unique way..
Thank you in advance.
OK, so what you're referring to is the Mystical Fairy steriotype of autism. Basically, that's where people think that we are some kind of human evolution. We are called Indigo Children. We are super geniuses in disguise. There are all sorts of variations. They are all meaning to be complimentary, but they fall short. Why? Because we are human, just like everyone else. We are not actually from the planet Vulcan. We are from here. Right the same place you are. Saying otherwise, even out of a sense of admiration, ultimately stigmatizes us further because it denies us our full humanness.
Some autistic people are super smart. Some are not. In general, I would say that we are geniuses in exactly the same proportion as non-autistic people. But there are higher numbers of autistic people with intellectual impairments. So, you'll probably find us slightly less intelligent than NTs if you insist on taking things on average. (But who would really want to do that? We are a very diverse population!)
The things you listed aren't specific to autism. They do seem to be specific to high intelligence.
The only place you seem autistic to me is where you claim that you have no sensory sensitivities, but then say you are exhausted at the end of the day. Why is that? You could have an invisible disability like fibromyalgia, but you also might have sensory sensitivities that you were trained early and hard to ignore as a child. After all, how do you KNOW that other people see or hear in the same way you do?
Your writing style makes me think that there is more to your story. That and the fact that your kiddo is autistic. Maybe the autism is somewhere in the parts you haven't told us here. But this post just sounds like someone with a much higher than average IQ. It can be pretty isolating, especially if you haven't found a way to connect with other people who think like you.
05 Nov 2016, 10:42 am
