methinks wrote:
SteveK wrote:
I WILL say that, with me, the slow processing is USUALLY due to looking for hidden meanings, not originally earlier finding subtle intent, being misled by improper word choice/grammer, or social convention.
Steve
Good insight.I too "scan" an interaction to suss out what might be conveyed,how to understand the delivery,and in doing so often miss the message itself.Marshall McLuhan said "the medium
is the message";I'm not sure how accurate that is for all things,but maybe it has a parallel here(that is,if I'm understanding what you mean
).
What I mean is:
the slow processing is USUALLY due to looking for hidden meanings-- After being too literal and not seeing sarcasm, you almost subconciously ask if such things are being used.
not originally earlier finding subtle intent-- Someone might say aomething that, in one way, makes sense. You stop trying to parse the statement, and later piece together other statements and realize they meant something totally different.
being misled by improper word choice/grammer-- Sometimes they say something that may make, or almost make, sense, but they meant something different.
or social convention-- It may have some social meaning we just can't discern.
Steve