What do I do?

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Sorry if this turns into a huge rant but I'm upset right now.

My best friend has been ignoring me for the whole school day. We usually meet for lunch, but today he didn't show up. I ate lunch alone, then went to look for him. I saw him with two other people, so I walked over and said "hi". He looked at me, then ran away from me at top speed. Once he thought I'd lost him, he stopped and I said hello again. He didn't even look at me and started saying things to himself in Russian (I don't know what he was saying because I don't speak Russian.) I asked him what he was doing in a friendly way, and still he ignored me, so I gave up and said "ok, bye then", and left. I texted him after school, first asking him if he was ok, then asking if he was mad at me, then "why are you ignoring me?". He ignored those messages too.

I have honestly got absolutely no idea what I have done to make him ignore me and I don't know what to do next.

To identify what might have upset him, can you not reflect back on your recent interactions with this friend of yours?

Incidentally, one of my former friends ignored me for an entire day as a prank.

Reflecting back sounds like a good idea.

Sorry, I also forgot to mention that our friendship was fine yesterday and I haven't contacted him since then, so I really have no idea!

Update:
He blocked me on facebook and he blocked my number too. I still don't know what I've done and he seems to not want to talk at all. I'm so, so confused?

If the last normal interaction you had with him contained nothing that might have upset him, could it be that in the interim a third party has said something to make him turn against you, even if it's false? Or a mutual friend relayed something that he took the wrong way?

If there are mutual friends, ask them what they know or what they think about this.

I think this is worth looking into as well. If he is refusing to talk or write back, could a mutual friend go and ask him what the problem is? It could be a big misunderstanding, or someone lying about you, or you could have unintentionally upset him. Or it could be something upsetting him that has nothing to do with you, but he's not been ready to talk about it. It could be cleared up pretty quickly with an explanation or a simple apology.

I had this happen when I was a kid. I still have no idea what happened. You're not alone. Human beings are complex. All sorts of things could be going on in his mind. All sorts of very real things could be happening in his world.