SICK OF IT! I will NO LONGER attempt to engage others!

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There are only SO many times you can hear that you are too analytic, that you don't read social cues, that you don't do this or that. Apparently I can never learn these things to suit NT preferences! I have tried again and again to try and engage socially, but it just never meets most of their approval.

After 30+ years, and yet another epic failure on another online forum, I am officially DONE trying. TOO much frustration has accumulated. I cannot take this anymore.

I will do what is required at my job. I will associate with those of my family who understand. I'll do what's needed for church functions.

However, social media is over. Attempting to initiate any new friendships or relationships are over. Too much rejection has taken place, too much of hearing the same old, same old. Clearly I cannot figure it out, so why keep attempting only to fail again and again?

I wish I had been diagnosed earlier so I could have prepared better for this. They could have let me know I'd NEVER succeed, instead of trying all this time in hopes that maybe someday I would.

Well, now I know why it's "wrong planet." We autistics are not fully human and thus cannot engage other humans.

This is it. This is the last. No more social media, no more attempts.

Goodbye.

Khendra Murdock, Aspie

Does this mean you're not looking at any replies to this post? If so, I can prance around right now naked in front of you waving my arms in the air saying
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and not punctuate

Us autistics are fully human. The bullies of the world want us to think we are not fully human but we should not let them succeed at this.

You CAN succeed but you have to redefine success so that it is more suited to your autistic brain and your personality.

Your the first person I've seen streaking across a thread

You know, there are more people who don't get social cues and won't think you're "too analytic".

LOL la la la la

I like analytical individuals. I can trust their conclusions better than the conclusions of others.

This may be the reason for the OP.

This is supposed to be a safe place for autistic people to find at least some degree of friendship & support. This is not friendship or support. This could be considered a form of bullying.

The fact that the original poster said the things they were saying is likely due to things like this following post. This post is something you would expect from a grade school playground bully.

The OP was likely looking for some form of acceptance by showing the degree to which it appears people were rejecting them for the very things that this forum is supposed to show at least some acceptance for & not ridicule but help to overcome if it is a huge problem that the person is dealing with.

Autistic people it appears can be bullies just as well as NT''s. I wish this was not the case but it sure looks like it is. Being autistic myself and having been subjected to a lot of bullying myself knows what it feels like to be at the receiving end of bullying, it is not fun. I admit when I was younger I did do some bullying myself for which I'm not proud of though a lot of that I was being pressured to do. This was mostly between me & my sister & was being pressured to do so by my foster families other children. I was 9-10 years old at the time. This I believe was intended to separate us so that with one of us out of the picture the other could be abused without witnesses to the abuse outside of the foster family themselves. The succeeded in their quest & the abuse started after our seperation.

I was being humorous and was hoping if she saw it, that it would make her laugh. Your post is really a downer. Maybe you were trying to provoke some drama.

Yes you could construe it that way or you could take it as the way I think it was meant - a funny comment intended to hopefully make the OP find it funny as some people find humour helpful. I do not consider it bullying but I'm not the OP so don't know how they saw it.

This isn't The Haven so I personally see nothing wrong with making a humorous post on the thread. Humor is often used to diffuse tension and sometimes it does people good to simply lighten up.

Not looking for drama here at all. I honestly did not see it as funny. I personally don't see things like that as being funny when someone is apperantly hurting from social rejection. It's like someone laughing at your pain to me.

After looking at you follow up post yes it may have been your intent to be funny in which case I be mistaken as far as intent to bully but please bear in mind it can in fact come across that way to some people on the spectrum like myself who has suffered a lot of abuse. I sincerely want this to be a safe place for everybody.

I apologize to Dr Pepper for misconstrueing her intent.

Last edited by germanium on 10 Oct 2016, 11:57 am, edited 1 time in total.

I've felt this way many times. I keep trying and trying.

That is how I took it. Yep. But, I am willing to accept the member's described intent. When I make jokes that could be construed in ways other than the way I intended, I add an emoticon like or simply write "[sarcasm]."

It's okay.

Hi again all. Family persuaded me to not give up social media entirely. Yep, things can get frustrating at times, but have to learn to live with it. Besides, it's not like it's ONLY bad stuff that happens all the time. There are enlightening times, too.

And for the record, I can understand both germanium's and Dr. Pepper's points, actually. When upset, I probably wouldn't have found Dr. Pepper's post funny, but now that I'm not so upset, it's pretty hilarious.