Coping with breaking off a Codependent Narcissist.

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Hey Wrong Planet, It's been a long time.

This forum has been very helpful with major life changes in the past. I basically just completely cut off my mother. She is a Narcissist, naturally she hasn't been diagnosed. My hands are too full to "complete" her and live as an adult with a history of agorophobia, ocd, seizures etc all related to the Aspergers umbrella. I'm 27 and have been trying to make it work since I was a child. I don't deserve this life. She is controlling, unempathetic, possibly dangerous and passive aggressive. The last time I cut her off was a few months ago and she just popped into my apartment (she had a key due to my seizure disorder) pretending like nothing happened. Before my symptoms were controlled she kicked me out on the streets then came crying to the homeless shelter 3 days later. She takes my rejection as an insult, then comes back in a rage or crying fit. How do I deal with this?. How do I keep from falling back into her flow of things?. At this point if I have to fight her I'm able but I really want to break this codependent relationship. Thanks for reading all this.

I suggest you join an online support group for Adult Children of Narcissists. It is hard to break off these traumatic bonds in isolation, and the combined knowledge of ACONs would assist you to develop strategies with the gaslighting, invasions of privacy and other power manipulations. There are many on the web now. Out of The Fog is one though there are many others. This is one of my favourites:

http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.co.nz/ ... -suck.html