Wedding Invite

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I've been invited to a wedding, its quite low key which is good. I kinda hate weddings though, i think of them as couples trying to make other people feel bad about their relationships or lack of them. I know that's not necessarily intentional though. If you have got together with someone then fine, thats nice for you, hope its good, but i don't want to give you presents, listen to stories about how you met, and pretend to give a s**t. I see it as like joining a club attempts to elevate itself from other non marrieds, and pats itself on the back at the same time. Yeah i know i'm being kinda cynical? I just find it quite hard to stomach weddings sometimes.

I don't blame you, although I don't really hate weddings.

I don't blame you either, but just remember that this will only be one special occasion. You don't obviously get invited to weddings every single day.

The last time I went to a wedding was with my family about four years ago. A daughter of a family friend was getting married and my mom told me off for not being social with people during the reception.

I don't like weddings, either. Or any other formal affair.

But I think you'll do fine, Insomnia Girl. Because you're charming.

I don't know what I'd do if I was invited to a wedding. I guess I'd get a pea green tuxedo made for myself.

Though I've not been to many weddings, and they're been pretty boring affairs anyway, I'm not down on them.

A small proportion of people may use a wedding as a social weapon, bit most just see it as a celebration of their happiness, and want others to share in it.

Do you like these people? Do you know them well? Are you a seat filler?

A wedding is the one excuse most people have in their lives for a really big, fancy party. And that's not a bad thing.

You sound very down on the wedding, don't want to give a gift, etc. So politely decline the invitation.

If you feel you can't, then go with the entire protocol, including a gift, dressing nicely, saying the expected things. It won't kill you.

The only times I have declined a wedding invitation is when substantial and costly travel was involved. The other invites, I did accept, and had a reasonable time. You get fed, you take (or pose for) pictures, you mingle. I agree with the others posting, it does tend to be a bit boring, but it won't kill you.

Thanks for responses guys. Yes I guess having an excuse for a fancy party is a good thing. I suppose people need other people around to confirm that they are making a good decision and give meaning to the humans getting together thing.
Does nobody think it's kinda of a self indulgent thing though?
Getting friends and people you know together to pretend they give a s**t you have decided to become a couple in the eyes of the law or God, or whatever institution you want it's blessing from.
Yes I am a seat filler at this wedding, but if my best friend wanted me to play an active role in his, I hope he knows me well enough to not be offended when I tell him to f**k off.
I just don't like the ceremonial approval of celebrating that someone likes someone more than other people, and they plan to keep on doing that. Good for you but I and most other people their don't give a s**t, unless they have stupid romantic notions about weddings, where they are a princess for a day, or buy into so they can have their big day someday!
Yes I am a seat filler
Also I'm not as annoyed about it as I probably sound

If it is a wedding of someone related to me, its the best! Get to see all your relatives from other states you haven't seen in a long time.

Unrelated story, my mom said I was the one that took the longest to learn to walk (go figure). My great aunt from another state was visiting and was baby sitting all of us kids (my mom had five). She left to go do something, and when she came back, my great aunt had taught me how to walk. When she passed away, the young priest told a story of how when people die, he has to create a life story from what little the family gives him. But my great aunt, he said she was right there, in the front pew, every Sunday, participated lively, and talked to him after mass, he knew here. Meanwhile, the pews were filled with all sorts of children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, great nieces, great nephews, all blubbering, including me. I miss her. Oh, and the tie in, my uncle and her came to our wedding, and my sister's, and my brothers' (plural).

I was invited to my brother's wedding but did not go.

If you do go I suggest you take frequent breaks by walking outside etc.