anyone else feel like they don't get on with anyone

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Hey,
hope people don't mind me asking.
I was recently diagnosed as suffering from ASD (although more high functioning type or should i say more asperger style traits) and went to my first group hang out session for people who suffer from ASD.

This was really interesting, but at the same time very stressful as I met loads of new people including some people who suffered from much more severe symptoms of ASD.

Over the past few months, i have also been hanging out with some people who have severe Autism and some people with learning difficulties. I did so as I was fed up being treated like crap by neurotypical people, with them lying, slandering, bullying, stealing, making snide remarks and doing typically animalistic things that relate to the ego.

The other day, I came to the realisation that i find being around people on the autistic spectrum as equally hard work as being around neurotypical type people (or should i say bad neurotypical people such as ones found in pubs). Although the "challenges" that I have being around people on the spectrum are different to that who are neurotypical.

With the challengers being around autistic and learning difficulty people being stressful to communicate with, their wobblies based on misunderstanding, and problems with understanding what the hell is going on most the time.

I am starting to wonder if I have a place on this planet at all (although not suicidal).
I would hang out with religious people, but kind have been down that route (or many route) over a number of years and found that also to be as difficult and full of philisophical / moral mind fields as any where else.

So what does a person who is a bit like a neurotypical person in IQ with asperger traits do, as cant hang out with neurotypical types who have bad in them, but also find it extremely difficult to hang out with people on the spectrum, as many wont keep up but others really stressful to communicate with.

Anyone else out there see the world in this strange way?

I relate. I'm not autistic enough to fully resonate with the ASD population on all issues, but I'm too much of a social disaster to get on with the normies. The only thing I can suggest is to find a group of "inbetweeners" to get on with, I found a group of these in my IT class.

Know that one quote "too weird to live, too rare to die"?

I could also fit in this category.... I'm a NT with ASD traits at least that's how I see it...in fact left alone I feel very normal...its only during social situations that I feel different and even then I could easily blend in...though I need a few cigarette breaks to recover...or maybe just my nicotine addiction getting the best of me...

I'm not 'in-between' NT and ASD, but I do have trouble fitting into any group, including other autistic people. I went to a monthly autistic meetup for the better part of 2 years, and it was disappointing to find that most of them weren't kindred spirits at all. I've had similar experiences getting into groups that were focused on my interests or hobbies. I think I'm just incompatible with the vast majority of people, regardless of whether we share some common ground or not.

I find it much more easy to interact with someone one-on-one than to interact with people in a larger group anyway. Even if it's only three other people in the group, I'm usually the odd one out.