Help me about acting like normal human please!

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Hi I have both aspergers and social anxiety. When I was 13 or 14 I secretly listened some of other students at school. They were saying that i'm like a robot. Can i act (walk, talk, sit, run etc...) like a normal human instead of a robot? And how.

Speech therapy can help you modulate your speech to be more "normal."
Similarly, a Physical Therapist can help with the way you walk.

Dancing could help, perhaps. Singing classes, maybe.

I wouldn't put that much stock into an evaluation given by 14 year olds. They tend to trash most everyone one way or another. As for working through and around autism, I'm told it's a lengthy trial and error process. Take baby steps.

This is a common way for non-autistic people to describe autistic people (usually behind closed doors). You probably seem less robotic now than you were when you were 13-14, although social interactions could still feel unnatural to you.

I agree with the suggestions that other people have already made. You can look up things on the Internet and practice on your own, but also you can find a sympathetic friend and practice on them if you feel comfortable enough with them. Practicing is really the only way to get better at anything.

I can tell you that you will definitely improve with time and this will be less and less of a problem for you as you get older. It may never go away entirely, but you will always find it easier to fake it as you get more practice.

Some people find, with time, that blending in is actually more stressful than sticking out and ultimately decide to stop putting in the effort. You'll just have to figure out what is right for you.

In my teens I could hit a softball with a bat but not catch it. In my 30s I finally learned to catch a ball, as well as make significant improvements in walking and talking. In my 50s I learned how to cook. I can gril, steam, and fry shrimp.

If possible, feed yourself, and get extra rest, to support the exertion, and wear yourself out, completely, repeatedly -- preferably, without any judgmental onlookers.

I find that making something from scratch (it can be the very next thing you break, wear-out, or use-up) is also a good way to learn physical coordination.

Old hobby books have stuff like this -- really physical, demanding pastimes, that poor people can do.

You will get exasperated and give up, many times, before you get good at anything, but become confident in the long run.

If you get thirsty and have to drink, or can't walk any more, and have to sit, there is a measure of objective morality in that, which supersedes all the big talkers and popularity contests.

Do an oddjob to support your hobby. People will hate you for it, and you won't mind.

Special interests run from the mundane to the bizarre, and, when you're in that headspace, I think you will like yourself.

There are halfway houses, in the neighborhood, where I work.

I was a passenger, in the work truck, with an improperly-attached trailer, and, as we back up, there are odd crunching noises.

As the driver is getting outside, and fussing with it, I see a Mexican guy, with one working leg, really struggling to force his wheelchair uphill, and having a bright, happy expression. Another Mexican guy offers to help him, the rest of the way.

A legitimately-fat, and conspicuously-retarded person shouts to praise music on his headphones, as he walks up and down the street and tells everyone hello. People say hello back.

Other people have been eyed as a meal, and asked for my help. They will have some stories to tell.

It's still better to try and live life.

For some autists (including myself and WrongPlanet.net's Alex Plank), we learned socialized behaviors and speech from watching movies. Now, you wouldn't want to mimic or "impersonate" the actors you watch, but you can borrow some of their reasons in speaking the ways that they do, how they change their voices depending on the circumstances they are in, and also, how to be humorous and descriptive when necessary. Then, there are also their behaviors to help show body language. They can be a little easier to learn and adopt.

So, I believe that watching some good movies with neurotypicals acting normally could help explain why they act and speak as they do ... presuming you want to act and speak like them.

Good luck!

Ok today i realized something. Being odd is a problem but I think my main problem is unhappiness. Sometimes i feel very good, everything is ok. But sometimes i feel too much stressed and unhappy. This happens usually when i remember that i have autism, or when i feel too lonely.

When i feel too unhappy i become even more odd. I can get unhappy too easily. i cant stop thinking what other people think about me. I can't accept my autism and i always want to be like normal people.

So, i get down and i get unhappy very easily. My big sister said me you dont love yourself, you need to love yourself or nobody will be your friend. My doctor said me similar things too. But i dont know how to be motivated in life. Is there anyone who can help me about this?